The scope of Yoga in the west has finally traversed the boundaries of some esoteric exercising. In fact, nowadays many circles see it as a collective form of healthy ‘living’, which is inspired by some set guidelines. These guidelines, or so called ‘rules’ are based upon the ethical perceptions of Yoga Sutras, and as such they could come in handy in our everyday situations like dating.
Ahimsa
Better known as non-violence, it doesn’t really come as a surprise that Mahatma Gandhi was an ardent proponent of this concept. However, when we apply this concept to a more micro level, it simply means that we shouldn’t hurt our partners. This form of non-violence shouldn’t only cover physical abuse, but should also address those unintentional yet unfortunate incidents of mental abuse.
Satya
In Sanskrit, Satya literally translates to Truth, and thus it relates to the act of truthfulness. In this regard, when we start to date, most of us have a natural desire to project things about ourselves which are impressive (but not true). However, truthfulness goes a long way in resolving issues, especially when your relationship is maturing enough to take its shape. Moreover, one should be clear enough about his intentions in a relationship, so as to give the other person that much needed choice to act.
Brahmacharya
It is related to sexual responsibility, which in itself forms one of the cores of our responsibility as humans. Now, many people may perceive this as a restriction on their personal rights. However, the concept doesn’t actually call for sexual abstinence; rather it relates to the moderation of our sexual practices. In fact in Yoga, the sexual force is often regarded as built-in energy of our human system, and thus it shouldn’t be wasted on more frivolous pursuits.
Santosa
Better known as contentment, this is perhaps the hardest ‘rule’ to follow, as human mentality by nature is nigh insatiable. However, deep down in our hearts, many of us know the truth, and more importantly the practicality of situations. So, before you are inclined to ‘trade up’ for new partners, do analyze the existing situation. Perhaps, you might be missing out on your soul mate when looking for the greener grass!
Tapas
Relating to Tapasya or Meditative Discipline, this rule alludes to our self discipline when it comes to working out relationships. Like every other significant field of life, relationships do require hardships to work. Now, many of us may give up easily, but to reach the next level of intimacy and connection (both physical and mental) with your partner, one needs to concentrate on his inner determination and will power.
