Kids bring out the best in you. They make you aware of the funny, loving, caring and compassionate side to your personality. You are at peace with yourself when you have your kids around you.
At the same time, there are moments when small mistakes of your four-year-old troubles you and when nothing works, you lose your temper, which instigates negativity. Parents yell and shout at the top of their voice and for a moment treat their kids as their biggest enemies.
Know what sets you off
Try to recognize what irritates you the most or what makes you lose your temper. It may be the stubborn attitude or the habit to argue with you that bring out the monster in you. What changes do you feel in your behavior? When you know what irritates you the most you can identify and control your behavior the next time you come across one such situation.
Do not overreact
It is important that you do not use harsh language or yell at them. Even your decision to withdraw yourself from the family or not uttering up a single world may affect the behavior of your kids negatively. It is quite natural to lose your cool when you kids starts arguing or yell at you but reacting back in the same manner would never solve the problem.
Tell your kids that you do not like the way they behave and you would discuss the matter later on. It gives you some time to control your own emotions and kids may analyze their behavior meanwhile.
Do not get into a power struggle
Do not get into arguments with your kids as it makes them feel that they can control your behavior or at least try to do so. You must keep the power to make the final decision with you. When you argue you give them an opportunity to take the control in their own hands. Tell them that your decision is final and nothing or no one can change it. You do not have to justify your point or try to take their agreement.
Do not hesitate to feel sorry
Parents usually find it hard to apologize to their own kids, as it becomes a matter of self-respect for them. However, the reality is that you only teach your kids to behave in the same manner when they make a mistake. Do not forget that when you apologize to your kids you set an example for them, which they may use themselves.
Do not give in or bargain
Kids are good at judging their parents. Once your kids attain the age when they can understand the difference between good and bad behavior patterns, be strict with your rules.
Do not encourage the bad behavior or avoid it even once, as it will motivate them even more. Do not bargain with your kids. Those parents who offer things in return of good behavior often motivate the faulty behavior patterns.
Have structured communication
It is important that you talk to your kids on regular time intervals and tell them that you want them to be safe and successful in life. Do not point out the bad behavior patterns repeatedly as it instigates negativity.
Learn to appreciate your kids when they are at their best behavior. When they cooperate, you must praise them and that too in presence of other family members. Remember positive reinforcement work wonders and help you accomplish your goals as a parent.
If you don’t manage your anger at an early stage, the communication between you and your kids may turn into warfare, which never ends. Kids imitate and learn the behavior patterns of their parents, make sure you set good examples for your kids.