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Scary truths behind teen dating

The concept, outlook and attitude of teens, these days, in respect to dating and sex, has changed completely as they have gone way ahead of the age-old belief of sex being reserved only for that special man or woman who would be your life-partner. These days, premarital sex is absolutely normal and acceptable as losing your virginity has become the latest trend amongst teens. What might be considered a sacrilege according to you might be a very normal behavior in the eyes of your teen. So, knowing some facts about how teens react and behave towards certain given situations of getting intimate with their friends can help you be prepared for the worst, and yet, not get the shock of your life, assisting you further to influence and guide your children with the correct values and cautions rather than ordering or commanding over them.

1. Internet is the new dating scene

With the introduction of social media sites like Facebook, Skype, Yahoo Messenger and dating sites, making friends and hooking up with someone has become very easy and convenient. Your teen does not need to step out of the house to make new friends and date with them, all of it can be easily handled smartly within the confined areas of the house itself without your knowledge, under your nose.

However, technology has been a boon for one and all. Where it has catered to the sentiments of the teens, it has also assisted parents in keeping track of their children’s activities. As concerned parents, you can do your bit by not making the computer accessible to your child at his beck and call, especially in his personal private room. The internet usage hours should be fixed and monitored, placing it in the family room like the living area, limiting the time for usage of social networking sites.

2. Your teen is meeting total strangers

The entire scenario and concept of making friends has changed over the years. These days, just casual acquaintances or introduction through a common friend can lead to your teen getting involved with a total group of strangers involving both guys and gals, leading to frequent meets and assembling at common parties as well as get togethers. They do not necessarily have to be very closely linked or involved to go around and have fun with someone.

In such a situation it is very difficult to keep a track of the background and details of your child’s friends and the people he is regularly in touch with. The only resort to this complexed state of affairs is to consistently beware your teen of the dangers involved in mingling with strangers and the problems it might lead him to.Also, guiding your child not to post revealing photographs so as to avoid gaining unwanted attention can refrain your child from landing into a soup.

3. Girls are more liberal

Gone are the days when it was considered a taboo for a girl to propose a guy. The new generation girls are the ones who ask guys out, take all the moves and get aggressive, provoking their partner by sending flirtatious notes, thereby tempting and exciting the boys to get intimate with them.As parents, discussion on sexual topics should be modified so as to making your daughters realize the negatives of being rejected and your sons as to refusing down proposals made by girls to get involved physically and sexually.

4. Curfew is not a guarantee

Restricting your teens from staying away from home for late night-outs does not provide a solution or confirmation that your child would not get involved sexually with anyone. Statistics prove that school going teenagers utilize their after school hours, mainly between 3p.m to 6p.m to have sex with their girlfriends, as they do not necessarily have to wait for the night to have fun. However, enrolling your child for a recreational activity or his favorite sport after school hours can keep him busy and away from the temptation of getting carried away by weird thoughts. Also, surprise visits or casual calls, to assure where your child is, can help you monitor your child’s activities to quite an extent.

5. Oral sex is just like kissing

The ideologies of having sex have changed in the minds of teens these days. They understand making love as penetration, other than that it’s perfectly fine to have oral sex as it is considered and taken as casually as kissing, according to them. As responsible parents, it is your duty to educate your teens in respect to the ill-effects of oral sex and how it can result in transmitting sexual diseases.

Though teens have become very independent in their thoughts and actions, a good communication system as well as proper inculcation of moral values can restrict them from getting involved in unethical deeds and scrupulous involvements.

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