Instilling a proper disciplinary sense could be one of the hardest tasks, a parent can face. If left untaught about the various tenets of discipline, they might never learn how to behave sensibly. Let’s take a look at some of the most common behavioral problems usually found in kids and how parents can cope up in an efficacious manner .
Rudeness in kids
It is one of the most common problem often noticed in kids. Since, they don’t understand what kind of behavior is appropriate, they behave in a rude manner. Making faces, showing tongue etc., if not stemmed, might go on to become a regular habit.
Solution:
a. Make your kid understand that gestures are a kind of prologue before dialogue. If their body language appears wrong, there are high chances of being misunderstood and hated by others.
b. Kids pick up certain rude habits from television as well. Make sure you keep them away from television, when it comes to watching stuffs, not really necessary for them.
Disobedience
Most often kids just let your advice pass them off casually, without paying much attention. This is one of the most irritating and annoying problem that parents usually face. Further, it also poses an alarming risk of losing your child totally off your grip.
Solution:
a. Ensure that your kids are focused towards what you are saying, before getting on with the conversation. Apart from that, you need to make sure he is not pre occupied with television or video games that might distract him from what you are actually saying.
b. For a quick revision, ask him what you said few minutes back. If he narrates your words, this implies the message has been imparted loud and clear.
Cheating
It’s quite obvious and natural for a young kid to cheat while playing games with you. Most often parents let this go away without digging much into it. This particular habit might turn into an obsession for kids of not bought under the pump. Kids become stubborn and want to win at any cost. This hollows the spirit of playing a square and fair game in them.
Solution:
a. Make your kids realize that games are not just all about winning or losing but about playing with a true spirit and enthusiasm of a sportsman. This makes a sports person earn love and respect of masses.
b. Ask him to approach every game in a very casual yet dedicated manner. Without bothering about winning, he needs to perform up to his potentials and even if he loses, he should accept his defeat gracefully and humbly.
Lying
Lying is one of the most common problems, especially in kids above 7-8 years. Often ignored as an atypical behavior of kids, it can sprout into a regular bad habit, if left unattended.
Solution:
a. Delve deep into the habit before taking the plunge. Try to find out what makes him lie too often and over what he lies the most. Figuring out the problem from root will enable you to tackle the problem in an analytic and effective manner.
b. Don’t go over the top measures and expect immediate changes in your kid. Preaching tenets of truth would reap little result. Instead, encourage him to speak the truth without fearing strict punishment. Once he is assured of not receiving harsh treatment, he would feel more confident of divulging in the truth.
Stealing
Things are quite up and moving but one fine day you discover your child is into ‘stealing’ and you get shocked. Well, stealing candies from his sibling’s kitty is not a big deal but picking money is definitely not a habit worth casual handling.
Solution:
a. Impart the message to him in strong words that stealing is out and out unacceptable. Adopt an intolerant stand towards this habit and make him return goodies back to the one he stole from.
b. Sit down and discuss with him, what prompted him to steal. Sort out if he is lacking that particular stuff that he stole and try to understand if he really needs that.
Interrupting
Though this problem is not that common, yet it’s quite annoying when your kid start interrupting you whenever you are having a word with someone. You might be ‘OK’ with this. But think about the other person, he/she might not gulp it with cool. Moreover, if not checked, this might persist for a longer period.
Solution:
a. Tell your child that interrupting is not a good habit and it’s considered rude and inappropriate. Ask him to wait till the conversation gets over and then speak.
b. Turn to your kid as soon as your talk gets over with the other person. This will make him feel that you are paying sufficient attention towards him and he will definitely get an opportunity of speaking what he wishes.
Whining
Often your kid starts whining when he fails to make his way out. Eventually, you are left with no other option than giving up to your kid’s whining. But down the line, that’s definitely not a wise way of tackling the problem.
Solution:
a. Never just give in, no matter how long and how much your child whines. It might be a bit difficult for you initially, but that’s the way you should deal with it.
b. Try to grasp why he is after something so desperately and what’s prompting him to go wild. Have a word with him and make him understand about the utility. He might reconsider next time before going for it.
Teasing
Your kid constantly teases his younger sibling which every time results in a fight. Children do indulge in teasing but going overboard and making it regular, might convert it into a habit in coming times.
Solution:
a. Make him understand that it’s not always cool to tease his sibling even if he does not mean anything seriously or intends to offend. His act might hurt his sibling.
b. Take your kids out of your house. Make them play out in a park or amidst social gathering. This might discourage the older one from playing pranks at his younger sibling.
