Parents are often clueless as to how they should treat children who misbehave. It hurts us when our children, for whom we have done everything in our power, behave rudely. We have no idea how to curb their offensive attitude or how to help them see how much we are hurting. It seems kids often behave badly to test their parents and their limits. Some kids want to deliberately hurt their parents and do offensive things to get back at them. Behind all the bad behavior and apparent roughness there are most of the times a desire to get the right help. Kids seek your attention through misbehaving and you need to handle such situations with utmost care and caution.
Don’t pressurize your kids:
There are many parents who pressurize their kids for achieving more than they are capable of. These parents bog their kids down with their own, unfulfilled ambitions. This is the reason why many kids commit suicide or become rebellious. You should never pressure them to choose a career that they do not like. Help them find their own hobbies and passions and support them to make their own dreams come true. You should make them understand the importance of good results but don’t force them too much to get straight As.
Give them love:
Kids are always hungry for love. If they do not receive love and tenderness from you they mask their softer side with rudeness. They pretend not to care while feeling hurt and humiliated. Expressing your love for them through small gestures, hugs and meals together is essential for healthy upbringing. Make them feel that they are needed and don’t let them feel ignored. Go shopping with them or ask them to help you. When you show them how lucky you feel to have them in your life they will stop seeking attention in immature and peevish ways.
Be an example:
Cultivate yourself and change your own bad traits so that your kids can idolize you. Gentle manners, maturity, kindheartedness and generosity are some of the major qualities that your kids can pick up from you. Do not blame others for your misfortunes rather take up responsibility. Children often try to blame their way out of a situation and they learn this from their parents. If you use good language then they too will think before they use slangs.
Set limits:
Let them know how much you are ready to tolerate and what is too much. Never overlook bad behavior. They need to know that every action has an equivalent reaction.
Praise good behavior:
Whenever they are nice or do something good you should appreciate the effort. This way they will be able to differentiate good from bad and learn more about the consequences of their choices.
