How to deal gently with your child’s puppy love

Parents know the difference between a puppy love and a real love and yet they often fail to deal with the issue maturely. Actually, some parents find it difficult to accept that their little kids are no more in that little phase and they have stepped into a new world wherein having crushes is pretty normal. Some parents find it very difficult to accept their kids in the crazy-boy and a crazy-girl phase because they fear that their adorable kids will hurt their feelings. However, parents must learn to deal with the very normal phenomena of puppy love. Following are some tips that come handy for parents while dealing with the first crush of their children:

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Accept their emotions

Some kids find it good to tell their parents about their crush while others do not feel like telling their parents. In the second case, the parents have to be well observant regarding their child’s behavior through which a child displays several signs that reveal they are having a crush. Once you get to know that your child is having a puppy love, accept their feelings and show a good interest in the whole matter. Never make fun of their crush, as it can be hurtful for the kids. Be patient, show interest and ask your child that what do they like in their crush and talk about related things.

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Be a role model

Parents are always a role model for their children and they are the only ones who can take their children out of difficulties and put them on the right track. Having a crush can be full of vicissitudes for a child, for they do not know what their feelings and behavior can lead to. On the other hand, there are parents who have seen it all, and they can influence the behavior of children by telling them all good and bad things. Parents have to caution children but in a gentle way. You can also share your crush story with your children and make them understand both the positive and the negative aspects.

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Set limits but gently

Parents feel that their little children do not know the appropriate and inappropriate things in life and while having a crush, so they feel like setting up boundaries for their children. Well, there is nothing wrong with setting up boundaries for children but parents should do this meticulously. They should set some real boundaries in a gentle way. In other words, the boundaries should be strict but your way to implement that boundary should not be too firm.

For instance, younger children can have a boundary set about kissing. You can teach your child that they are not supposed to kiss their crush but they can always hold hands and spend a good deal of time everyday with their crush if they want to. The level and type of boundaries change with the age of children. Like a boundary to set for your older children is regarding sex. You need to teach them the appropriateness and inappropriateness of having an unsafe sex. Moreover, parents need to teach their children that having crushes is fine, but do not get too much emotionally involved as it can hurt their feelings.

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Be a comforting figure

Many a times having a crush means one-sided feelings that is not reciprocated. This failure of reciprocation hurts children and they feel miserable. In such a situation parents have to be the strong pillars on which children can lean back upon. Parents should try to calm them down and should not ask them many questions.


Dr Prem Jagyasi

Dr Prem is an award winning strategic leader, renowned author, publisher and highly acclaimed global speaker. Aside from publishing a bevy of life improvement guides, Dr Prem runs a network of 50 niche websites that attracts millions of readers across the globe. Thus far, Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries, addressed numerous international conferences and offered his expert training and consultancy services to more than 150 international organizations. He also owns and leads a web services and technology business, supervised and managed by his eminent team. Dr Prem further takes great delight in travel photography.

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