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8 Tips to give aggression a firm and polite handling

Things may just take you with surprise one fine day, when you see your little sweetheart suddenly get angry and aggressive during a game with other children; you are shocked and at once loose your temper and take him home and scold him. You will be shocked to know that this is the worst thing that you can do to your child because this would actually make the condition worse. During such a situation, it is very important for you to stay calm and patient as their can be various reasons for your child’s aggression.

As a parent, you may be terrified and worried that what if he continues to behave like this, but you need to understand that this aggression is part of the child’s growing up. As he is new to this world and still trying to learn things. As your little one reaches 2 years of age, you will find that he wants to communicate, is very eager to do things independently and wants you to understand what he wants but when he is unable to do the same, he gets angry and physical because that is the only way he knows to express himself. So you need to understand that the anger is part of learning and nothing to be feared of. There is an alarming call when instead of making him understand his mistakes in a calm way you start shouting and behaving in the same manner. There are better and mature ways to help you deal with your child’s aggression.Here are a few tips to handle the situation.

1. Accompany your child

Always accompany your little one to places like park. If you see that while playing with others, your child starts pushing or biting anyone, immediately take him away and sit down with him for a while. Be calm and try to explain him that what he did was wrong and if he continues with the behavior, you will not allow him to play and he will miss out on all the fun. Try to understand why he did so and do not yell or scream or tell him that he is a bad boy, instead explain him that it is not a good behavior and that he should play the game with a healthy and friendly spirit.

2. Act quickly

If you see that your child is beating his sibling or anybody else, do not simply sit and watch. In such a situation, you should act quickly and try to distract his attention, tell him this type of behavior is not acceptable and if it happens again he will not be allowed to play.

3. Always stick to your reactions and behavior

Always be clear about what is acceptable and what is not. At times it is seen that for the same behavior, sometimes you get angry and at others you ignore the situation, which gives mixed reactions to the child and he continues with the behavior. Always act in the same way to every aggressive behavior as this will set a pattern for your child and will make him easy to understand what is unacceptable. Thus he will think twice before acting that way. Many parents address the wrong behavior of the child differently at home but try to ignore the same when outside, just to avoid being strict and cruel in public view. But you need to understand that every parent goes through this phase and might understand your situation, so stick to what you have been doing.

4. Show and explain

After your child behaved aggressively and you took him aside, try to show him how cordially other children are playing. Tell him that it is quite natural to get angry but yelling, biting or hitting is not the right way to vent his anger, instead, he should find other ways to express the same or tell you about the same. Try to be his mate and spend as much time with him as possible.

5. Teach him to apologize for his mistakes

After he has made a mistake and you have calmly made him understand, teach him to be sorry for his mistakes and apologize to the person he has hurt. May be in the beginning you will have to lead him by his hand to apologize, but slowly he will do it himself.

6. Recognize good behavior

Do not always look out for his mistakes but appreciate his good behavior too. Whenever he does something good, recognize and reward that. Make him realize that he did something good which will motivate him to behave like this in the future as well. For example instead of snatching a toy from another child, if he asks for it, you should appreciate him and reward him with things he may like and possibly keep him engaged, may be a color box!

7. Watch and limit his TV time

Always keep an eye on what your child is watching. Too much of anything is not good, therefore you should set your child’s TV timing. An hour or two is more than enough for the child to watch TV. It’s your responsibility to keep a check on what kind of TV programs your kid is watching. Young children mostly like cartoons but nowadays there are various cartoons that contain irrelevant and aggressive content which leaves wrong impact on the child’s mind.

8. Consult an expert for help

If you see that after all your efforts, your child is continuing to behave in the same manner, don’t be afraid to seek the help of an expert or a child counselor.

Children are like wet clay, they will shape up the way you want to mold them. A little bit of patience and understanding will make your child a good citizen of tomorrow.

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