Just like other parents, you would also like to believe that you are raising a calm and well-behaved child. But as you hear complaints about him getting involved in fights, bullying and other trouble making acts, you begin to wonder-How! If your child is constantly been tagged as the troublemaker, it certainly calls for your concern. Additionally, if this tag sticks out for too long, it can get difficult to be undone and he might eventually turn out to be an irresponsible adult.
So, how can you investigate that whether your child is a real troublemaker or is it just another behavioural phase? Here are some simple tips to help you through.
1. Scrutinize his everyday actions
Investigate his behavior closely. What he does before school, at school and after school? Digging his general habits might throw some light on his behavioural pattern. Document his activities and review them wisely. Conclude the factors that can be unhealthy for his proper functioning at school. For instance, are there any normal physical altercations or is he dealing with sudden erupted anger? Has been he lying constantly to hide his mistakes and undergoing severe stress issues?
Make your investigation elaborate by involving his teachers, school faculty, his friends and every possible person encompassing your child. They might come up with certain information that you have not heard before. Once you have all the answers, rewind your process and extract the real reasons of his invariably changing behaviour and start working on it.
2. Accept his mistakes
Instead of advocating his inappropriate behavior at the school, amend the behavioral issues in your child by discovering the real reasons. Don’t forget no child is perfect. Before, rectifying his mistakes, you first have to be prepared. If you come undone or insulate him from consequences of his wrong-doings, your efforts won’t pay. As said earlier, never fight for his wrong behaviour against the school authority. If they punish him, let them do so. By getting apt punishment for his improper conduct, he will eventually learn where he is going wrong. Furthermore, you can also organize intervention to teach him a few important behavioural lessons.
3. Ask for help
Many parents find it embarrassing to talk about their child’s incorrect behaviour in front of others. Unless you don’t reach out to the right person, you can never fight the problem. Seek help of his school counselor or your pediatrician, who already know your child. However, if problem has gone out of your hand and cannot be solved by simple intervention, he might have symptoms of a behavioral disorder called ADHD. In that case, consult with a child psychologist or psychiatrist for establishing medical diagnosis.
4. Stay positive throughout
If your child is going out of control then constantly accusing him won’t help. It can only turn disastrous. Do not crush his self-esteem. If you really want to help, talk to him politely, slamming and beating him up can make him either suicidal or worse than before. He shouldn’t feel left out. One of the major reasons for a child to become a bully is because of an unsettling relationship with his parents. No matter how busy you are, make time for your child. You must also understand that parents have a major influence in a child’s life so inculcate good moral behaviour. And do not forget to praise him for whatever good he does!
