Are you frustrated with your child’s behavior? Are you getting frequent calls or complaints from the school or daycare on his hitting habit? Do not get frustrated! Often, these are certain habits kids pick up and they go off along with the growing ages. But most of the time, you as a mom, feel very frustrated and do not understand how to control the present situation. There are lots of ways with which you can help your kid change his hitting habit. Try to understand your kid and try to talk to him. May be there are some situations where, your kid does not find out any other way to show his anger and, choose hitting others. Unknowingly your kid’s behavior can cause harm to others and other parents may not take this situation in a very easy way. Read on how you are going to manage the situation when your kid is hitting others. Learn more on how to change your kid’s behaviour towards others. Try out these tips and see the result. Happy reading!
1. Stress and tensions on kids
Often, much tension and stress can lead a kid to behave weird. There may be lots of issues at home. Kids of these generations are quite sensitive. Too many tensions between parents, financial issues, and social tensions often impose pressure on kids. As children, they often do not understand how to share those tensions and get relief from the unwanted stress. Too much academic pressure also forces children to behave rude. Try to keep your home ambience free from any tensions. Do not discuss any financial issues in front of your kid. If you have any tension, try not to show that in front of your kid. You may get relief from your tension but the small, sensitive heart will definitely capture those problems and will act in a very abnormal manner. It is always good to send for different activities but too many activities often put your child into a lot of pressure. Allow him to lead a tension free and happy life. Guide your kid, but do not impose any thing that he is not willing to do!
2. Spanking and hitting never helps
It is found that if a child does any mistake, the first thing many parents will prefer to do is spank or hit the child! It is a very wrong practice. When a child starts growing he can sense about his responsibilities and often it can put him into lots of pressure. That can make him feel a little low and behave weird! In that situation if he receives wired behavior from your side, it does nothing but mess up the entire situation. Never hit the child! He copies hitting from you only! Talk to him and, try to understand his feelings. Hitting makes a kid more arrogant and stingy. Give him that comfort level where he can come and discuss any problem with you. Avoid too much strictness. Excess strictness forces your kid to hide certain problems from you that he might be facing in the outside world.
3. Influence from other kids or from super heroes
Often you will notice kids are a lot influenced by their super heroes. They indulge in Spider man, Batman stories and try to fantasize their world with similar activities. Do not introduce your kid into much of the action movies. In the age of 4-6 years they try to copy the movie actions and, try to implement these on the other kids at school. Bullying and other such situations lead them to implement the actions they have noticed in the movie. Engage your kid more into reading and doing other constructive activities. Do not encourage your kid much into action based activities. It is dangerous not only for others but often causes life risk situations for your kid also. In the recent years, you can find a lot of instances where kids tried to follow the actions of their super heroes and, forced themselves into life risking actions. If your kid is very keen about action movies, talk to him about the pros and cons of such movies.
4. Never bribe your kid
If your kid is doing certain weird behavior like hitting and bullying others, talk to him, but never try to bribe him. Bribing often becomes a habit for your kid and, that continues till adulthood. Stories usually have great influence on kids. Tell your child stories of some great and noble characters from history and, try to make him understand on how well habits influence and define his character. When you bribe your kid, he understands that you are bound to give him whatever he wants. And when you do not bribe him another time, it naturally puts him into fits of anger and arrogance, which forces him to hit others. Never allow your kid to have such kind of thoughts. Bribe him with lots of love and care so that he can develop lots of good habits.
5. Spend time with your kids
Most of the time, parents do not have enough time for their kids. Try to take some time out from your busy schedule, and spend some quality time with your kids. Provide a great friendly ambiance to your kids and give them all kinds of support as they are getting introduced to the outer world. Outer world may be little harsh and uncomfortable for your kid and this is your responsibility to fulfill that negative situation with lots of positivism. Have frequent family gatherings. Grandparents have lots of influence on the kids. Ask kids to spend time with their grandparents and go out for family picnics. This will have a positive effect on your kids and also they will understand family values. Also, try to understand your kid’s friends circle. It is your responsibility to provide a healthy ambiance in your home so that your child never hesitates to discuss any problem with you – his parents.
