Parenting exerts a great influence over a child’s future, whether he grows up s a meek person, a person who follows the crowd, or the one who leads the crowd.These qualities determine the flow of one’s life, and parents instill these qualities in their children. Recent theories have propounded that some parents indulge in certain parental behavior that never allows their child to come out of their shell and become a leader but to be dependent on parents and others for their everyday survival. Following are the parental behaviors that prevent a child from becoming a leader in life.
Extreme appreciation/appreciation without reason
There is nothing wrong with appreciating a child every now and then, in fact, it is a key that makes them perform better and behave well all the time. However, as they say that too much of everything is bad, it goes for the appreciation as well. Some parents keep appreciating their children all the time, and most of the times it is unnecessary because in spite of teaching a child that he is doing wrong when a parent appreciates, the child gets a wrong message.Soon he realizes only his parents appreciate him and nobody else, and poor child suffers a setback. Therefore, appreciate your child but not when he does wrong, in fact make him understand his flaw.
Parents do not let children face risk
Parents do everything to protect their children because they do not want them to face any kind of risk at all. Protecting children is good but a small amount of risk experience is healthy for a child’s development. It teaches them superb self-defense strategies and makes them more confident. If parents remove every risk from their child’s life they will never get the sufficient self esteem and they will not grow up into leaders.
Some parents realize the importance of healthy risks in their children’s life but they come to rescue too quickly, almost just at the moment, risk comes. This behavior of parents hampers learning of life skills by their child. They do not let their child learn tactics and skills that could help them save themselves from risks and troubles. Children fail to develop leadership qualities and learn to be dependant.
Rewarding instead of motivating
Some parents condition their child only based on rewards. To make their child do anything all they tell them is that they will get the thing of their choice if they obey their parents.As an example, a mom asks her daughter to top her class and she will get whatever she wants, a father telling his son to win the basketball competition and he will get him a brand new basketball set, and more.
Rewarding children is good but not always, because children get conditioned that to get something of their choice they have to behave good, otherwise behaving good and achieving targets is not necessary. Parents should motivate their children to do good things and not bribe them every time.If you will motivate your child, he will develop leadership qualities and the will to achieve targets in life. Or else he would grow up as a flatterer who would only do well to reap his selfish motives.
Every parent loves their child but some parents are over possessive for their children, and they do not let their child face even slightest difficulty and pain. Showing care and love to a child is perfect and necessary too but overprotection that they get from parents hampers their overall development and they grow up lacking qualities of leadership, and become the followers.