Kids always tend to seek attention of their parents. When their requirements are overlooked or they are not understood properly can lead to their over the board aggressive expression of throwing tantrums. The situation can be really tricky at times. Most of the parents either get angry or confused as to how they should react and calm the anxious kid. The stress levels increase and the parents lose all their control and react in the most unusual way. This makes the kid do more and more of what he is not expected to do. Most tantrums are the outcome of frustration when a kid is not able to do what he wants to do. This is also an attention seeking behavior when parents do not listen or understand what the kid wants to say or convey in his own way. One should never reward the tantrums of a kid because he would take it as an accepted behavior in his further pursuits to get things done.
1. Understand the behavior of kids
The first step to control the tantrums is to observe the kid’s behavior carefully and why he has reached this unusual behavior. Reacting with anger can make the kid more aggressive and this behavior may get repetitive over a passage of time. The parents may find the situation difficult to handle and going out of hand. Parents should play with the kid on a daily basis for some time and get engaged in his own world of activities. The kid may wish that the parents also play a definite role in the game being played by him. By doing this the kid expresses his desire to be in command of things for a certain period of time. This is what he derives from when he is expected to obey the parents’ wishes which are for his betterment.
2. Praise your kids
Secondly, the kids themselves are in the learning process of knowing the right and wrong of things. They should be lavishly praised for their actions and deeds if they are doing them correctly. They will also learn the rights and wrongs of life in the process. This will limit them from showing behavior that is not accepted as good. The praise makes them well behaved and responsible. The kids look up to adults as their role models. Showing aggressive and loud behavior in front of the kids makes them think that this behavior is acceptable to get their word or wish to be fulfilled. So it is very important that the parents should not lose their cool while in front of the kids or while tackling with the kids themselves.
3. Set up a routine
Thirdly, there should be a routine for the day for the kid and he should be made to follow the same. The kid would initially try to avoid the same as this seems as a restriction to him. Reward and praise him for his efforts and he should be clearly made known about the action for which he has been rewarded. This helps in corrective behavior. Communicate with the kid frequently rather them letting him watch TV for long periods of time. It is believed that taking the kid into consideration and discussing the small issues about him makes him feel important and responsible rather than carefree to throw the tantrums.
Some parents feel embarrassed to see their kid throwing tantrums in front of others as they think that others would take it as bad parenting. In real life this is not the case. This is a normal part of growing up and proper love and affection can definitely help in overcoming this habit.
