Having a baby is the most cherished moment in a couple’s life.Their whole world changes as their lives get entwined with new born. But after a given point of time you may have this feeling that your marriage has got reduced to a boring routine of childcare and parenting, it has lost that warmth and passion post the birth of your baby. This is a common problem in majority of the couples post child birth. Probably this is the reason that many couples wish not to have children quickly after they tie the wedlock. But a child is never an obstacle. A kid is rather a bond of love between the couple. It needs some part of your valuable time and the eagerness that can rejuvenate your love life again, even after parenthood. Some simple tricks can help you in making your marriage baby proof.
1. Go for a surprise date
Some couples feel that spending some time with each other after child birth is effective in restoring back the love and romance in marriage. But sometimes this is reduced to a weekly or a monthly schedule which couples continue to follow in a regimented way as if it is their official responsibility. This is not going to help. Think in a different way. Plan a surprise date with your spouse.Take out some free time off your regular schedule and see if your partner is available on the day for a date. If you see that he or she cannot manage on that day, never feel disheartened. Try again another day and your plan will definitely be successful.
2. Plan night outs
It is a wise idea to plan occasional night outs together. You can always take along the whole family too, comprising of your kids. But even then you will be able to enjoy the togetherness of each other.
3. Capitalize your quality time
After getting married and having a baby, one thing you might always feel lacking in your life is the opportunity of expressing physical love. You might have often observed that every intention to love your better half has been crashed down with the intervention of your kid. So, you have to exercise your brain power this time. Instead of thinking of that hardcore one, everytime divert your attention to some mild gestures of love. You can indulge in a quick kiss when your kid is not around or you can give each other a big hug, after the whole day of work.
4. Reserve a time for each other only
A dutiful parenthood and having a steady professional career exerts its blow on marriage. Thus, almost all couples marital relationship is at the receiving end. Married couples often start taking their marital relationships as granted. But this ultimately widens the gap between the husband and the wife. A wise advice is to give priority to your marriage too. Rather, you must give more priority to your marital relationship than your children and your career. So, reserve some time for each other, when you will talk each other’s hearts out. The time that you set aside for each other may be as limited as ten minutes. It is actually not the duration but the quality of the time you spend with each other. Do not bring in your office matters or your family and kid related matters in that precious time.
5. Take advantage of small opportunities
Instead of trying hard to get a big opportunity to be with each other, focus at smaller opportunities. If you have ten minutes time in between your kids going to school and your housemaid’s coming in, utilize that. Make this ten minute a memorable time for each other. Indulge in having romantic conversations with each other or showing your love to your spouse. Never fall short of appreciating your spouse or letting him or her know how you miss each other whenever you get the opportune moment.
6. Do some work jointly to enjoy togetherness
If both of you struggle hard to be with each other but fail to do anything about it then explore things that can be done jointly. You can go for the weekend shopping or finish up the household chores together.
