Social anxiety bothers a large number of people around the world. While you may not perceive it to be a problem to bother about, it has some implications which can reflect on your work life and personal life. Also you may face enough situations in life where you may have to make random acquaintances. Here are some basic tips on starting conversation with a stranger. Break your introvert shackles and follow these simple guidelines on breaking the ice and starting a conversation.
Before you begin
The thing to remember before you start your conversation is that a good observation of the person may be of good help to know what you might speak about. You can always resort to initial light hearted ice breaking chats. Do not stress too much about what exactly you would say and just go with the flow.
Some tips on starting a conversation with a stranger
1. Make a personal comment
It could literally be anything regarding the person. A nice shirt he is wearing, or a nice cologne he is using or his hairstyle or shoes. Such a broad based start can actually provide you food for carrying the conversation forward.
You can actually be breaking the ice just by asking something as simple as what brand of watch the person is wearing because it is so beautiful. The thing to remember here is, do not get so personal with your comment that the person is offended. Avoid asking if he is wearing a wig for example. Once you receive the answer, build on the answer to initiate the conversation.
2. Try the where have I seen you before trick
If you are too shy a person to make a random comment, complementing or pointing out something personal about the stranger, this is your go to solution. This method almost always works. Simply start by asking where you have seen the stranger before because he/she looks familiar.
You could also distort this a bit by asking their school or college name because they look so familiar. This will give you enough opportunity to drag the conversation ahead. For instance, if he says his school name then you could go on about how you had an old friend from that school and before you know it you would be starting conversation with a stranger.
3. Be at your witty best
This can be a great way of talking to unknown people as almost everyone loves a good laugh. You can initiate by saying anything random. For instance you can point out something funny about your initiate surroundings or about a person in your immediate surroundings. The thing to remember here is that abstain from saying something rude or mean as you then simply come across as a judgmental and mean person. That would obviously hinder the process of you initiating a conversation.
4. Asking about the person’s profession
This is another easy way of beginning conversations. A majority of people are willing to share their work details while on the go. So you can always start off by introducing yourself and then go on to ask details about the other person’s work. Before you know it you would be hitting it off and the conversation you so dreaded would become a fun conversation.
5. Asking for an introduction on someone
To implement this method, you need to have something in common with the stranger and some basic knowledge of him. For example if you know the kind of people the stranger knows, a great way to start off is by asking more details about some particular person due to some business that you might have with him. Most people would be happy to help and the conversation can soon change its track to different topics making it a complete conversation.
6. The weather and the traffic
This is one of the safest and easiest routes to take and if you are wondering about how to start even now, this is your key. Nobody can possibly get offended with a conversation about the weather or the traffic. As you go hearing the grievances of the stranger regarding the tedious traffic, you will start a long conversation before you know it.
Share your thoughts too, be light hearted and be amazed thereafter at how effective this topic is. The weather can be too hot or too cold and it would not matter because everyone has an opinion on it. Avoid rough weathers in the conservation by talking about the general weather.
7. Talk about sports or a recent popular movie
This maybe a bit tricky as your attempt might be futile if the person is not interested in it. But if it syncs, you have long conversations up ahead. For example, if you see a man in Manchester United uniform and start talking about what he feels regarding their performance this season, you can hardly go wrong. A movie buff would always be eager to discuss movies and a popular movie means that chances are high that he likes it too.
Note: Just remember to be relaxed during the process. You do not want the stranger to guess that you are actually just trying to initiate a conversation. Starting conversation with a stranger is simple task but could go wrong as well. Do not be discouraged if it doesn’t work out. Remember there are millions of people in your city. Avoid being rude or making derogatory remarks and stay clear of controversial topics and you are good to go.
We hope that after giving this a read, how to start talking to unknown people is no longer an issue. It is a valuable lesson that you learnt and you can put this to use in several walks of your life. This will add to your character a certain confidence and flamboyance and you will just by following these simple tips on starting conversation with a stranger become more socially acceptable. Enjoy your new found powers!