Sharing is such a fulfilling and lovable experience of life that you definitely want your child to imbibe. It can prove very helpful in the growing years of a child and later on may help him/her emerge as a pleasant personality. While some children acquire these skills easily and effortlessly, for others it may be a bit difficult. And if you have more than one child, you might actually be facing a similar situation in your life.
1. Opportune Time
It may be disappointing when your child shows no mood to share his belongings with other children his age, but they are not to be blamed for it. Up to the age of two years, it is difficult for children to understand the concept of “sharing”. So there is a reason to wait till the child attains the correct age to start learning to share. The process has to be gradually initiated and introduced to gain cheerful acceptance from the child. It is foolish to expect positive results within a short span of time as the process is rather lengthy and requires lots of perseverance.
It can take several years for your child to expertise the skill and constant persuasion is desired. You have to show patience and composed behavior even when your child lands up in a fight with other children (or may be own sibling for that matter) over a trifling issue like his toy car. For you, it may be just a toy but for your child it is his priced possession.
2. Calculative Steps
Calculative steps can help a lot in getting quick and positive results instead of just doing lip-service. Your child is not happy receiving summons and it a better idea to behave in a friendly manner. Give particular examples like when you are in a restaurant; show him how a father shares his food with his child. By giving specific examples, your child can better co-relate the circumstances when you later try to use them for instructing him.
3. Proto-sharing technique
Proto-sharing is another tool available. Here, you can create a situation in which the child shall be prompted to share his belonging with others. Like when you prepare a sandwich and create a “yummy” appeal for it, your child gets curious to have a bite and repeats the word “yummy”. Similarly you can entice the child to share by using tricky words like “Ron is an intelligent boy and shares his toys with his friends”. But take care not to overdo it else it will be mundane and may not work at all.
4. Punishment is discouraging
Expert advice also disagrees with punishing your child if he is not willing to share. Give him his share of time to accept the feel lying within. By punishing him, he can become hostile and not listen to you. All your efforts can be misdirected by adopting the wrong techniques. Direct your efforts towards constructive outcome rather than promoting destructive feats.
5. Know the knack
Two siblings quarreling over the same toy is not uncommon. You need not contribute to the quarrel by alleviating the disagreement. One way can be quietly removing the toy enabling both the children get a feel that since the toy has created upsetting tendencies, it needs removal. In such a situation, it is likely that the elder sibling will take a lead and resolve the matter so that it does not reach you. Another option is to teach them take their turns to play with the same toy. You need to carefully tackle the situation.
6. Shower Love
Another suggestion from the experts is to appreciate your child. Praise the child whenever he shares his belongings. This will encourage him to repeat the act whenever he gets an opportunity. May be only for the warmth of your hug and kiss, your child shall be tempted to repeat them.
7. Extra caution
If your child it quite possessive, you can sort some of his favorite toys and keep them separately. Let him be comfortable in sharing his not so favorite toys. Thereafter, he can have better acceptance of the pleasure of sharing and contribute more of his toys the next time. Furnish him adequate time to accept the new feelings.