“Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It’s about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.”
Our personal relationships can our greatest source of happiness or our greatest source of misery. The skills needed to handle the complex nature of relationships is not something that is inherent in us, but instead they are a set of skills that need to be learned and practiced.
Relationships: 10 Books On Relationships That Every Couple Must Read
The 10 books on relationships have been picked from hundreds of books written by experts in psychology and relationship counseling.
Relationships book #1. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
The main idea behind this book is that just as people have unique personality preferences, we all have unique preferences for what we find satisfying and motivating when it comes to love. Your love language is the way that you most feel loved and cared for. The problem is most people love how they want to be loved, and that doesn’t tend to align with how their partner wants to be loved. So, you have to learn to speak your partner’s love language.
Relationships book #2. Love & Respect
The concept is so simple – he needs respect and she needs to know she’s loved – but you’ll have an A-HA moment and know that it’s so very true. The book will feel like it’s talking directly to you. Every couple should read this book – happy couples and couples in trouble.
Relationships book #3. Tuesdays with Morrie
The book is basically about Morrie Schwartz, a history professor at Brandeis University, who has been diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease) and is dying. A former student, Mitch Albom, who had become a fairly well known sports writer, heard about his teacher from an interview with Ted Koppel on Nightline and decided to pay a visit. This visit soon turned into regular meetings – on Tuesdays – since at the time there was a strike at Albom’s newspaper. Albom plots Morrie’s declining health, which is quite depressing, but at the same time imparts Morrie’s wisdom.
Relationships book #4. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Gottman creates a path for marital success via theories and exercises with an established track record for success. Many people wouldn’t think that a fit marriage has to be exercised regularly, no less than one’s body through regular workouts. Gottman’s book serves as the ultimate guide to marital fitness, yet is a valuable read even if you are unmarried or have already experienced a failed marriage.
Relationships book #5. Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Dr. Johnson has laid out the process of building a strong, happy, secure relationship with wit, charm and passion. This book will strengthen couples, save marriages, and bring more love to homes throughout the world.
Relationships book #6. The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship
Don Miguel Ruiz takes his interpretation of Toltec wisdom explained beautifully in his previous work, The Four Agreements, and applies these concepts to the realm of human relationships. This is a book you can finish in an afternoon sitting, yet it’s simple truths have the potential to alter profoundly how you view loving relationships as well as your relationship with yourself.
Relationships book #7. His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage
Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to affairs.
Relationships book #8. How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
In this book, the author discusses what love is: giving attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection and allowing – the five A’s as he calls it. The language used is beautiful, the way the author thinks is inspiring, and you can just feel that he himself is a loving person.
Relationships book #9. How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
In this book, the Yerkoviches have distilled all the marriage problems they encounter in their practice into this one root problem–a lack of comfort–and then shown how to solve them all with a simple, practical solution. Virtually any challenge you’re facing–lack of communication, resentment, old arguments, in-laws, blaming, anger, emotional pain, expectations–can be overcome through this systematic reframing of the reason for decreased intimacy. If it sounds too good to be true, you need to get the book and prove yourself wrong.
Relationships book #10. For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Woman
These books can at first cause more problems than they solve because as problems surface and you put names to the issues, things can get worse. A few days later, you may find your relationship on a better path and renewal setting in. The ideas almost require you to put pride aside and set to work on the real issues facing every relationship.