Happiness is a mind state that we consciously choose and foster. Being happy is a decision that you can consciously make meaning that you are in charge of your happiness. There are 9 decisions that extremely happy people make and these are explored in How We Choose to Be Happy, by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks.
The authors hadn’t intended to come up with nine specific choices but realized as they collected their stories that these nine choices came up over and over again and that each of these choices supported and developed the others.
The 9 Decisions Of Extremely Happy People
The 9 choices are:
Having the active desire and commitment to be happy and making the fully conscious decision to choose happiness over unhappiness;
Assuming full responsibility for your actions, thoughts and feelings and the emphatic refusal to blame others for your own unhappiness. Being happy is your choice and hold yourself accountable to that.
The ongoing process of looking deeply within yourself to assess what makes you uniquely happy, apart from what you’re told by others should make you happy.
The nonnegotiable insistence on making that which creates happiness central to your life. Being happy needs to be your priority.
The choice to convert problems into opportunities and challenges and to transform trauma into something meaningful, important and a source of emotional energy;
The decision to approach life by creating multiple scenarios, to be open to new possibilities and to adopt a flexible approach to life’s journey is a key factor of being happy.
The choice to appreciate deeply your life and the people in it and to stay in the present by turning each experience into something precious;
The choice to share yourself with friends and community and to give to the world at large without expectation of a “return;”
The choice to be honest with yourself and others in an accountable manner by not allowing social, corporate or family demands to violate your internal contract.