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How to deal with pushy people

Pushy people are those who push their views, opinions and ideas on others so much so that the other person is almost forced to accept it even against personal choice. We encounter them everywhere, in the grocery store, in the playground, co-workers in office or a family member. Here are ways to deal with these people even better.

Remain calm but be assertive

No matter how much the person is pushing you to consent to his views, it is very important that you stay put in your decision. Maintain a very calm stance but very clearly spell it out that you are not willing to do/accept it even though he/she feels it is the best option available. If required, you can repeat the same dialogue time and again and make it very clear that insistence or pushing will not change your mind. If possible, it is best to get away from the situation immediately after stating your mind openly and unambiguously without any aggression. Your confidence, non-aggressive approach and clean communications will make it easier for the pushy ones to realize that you cannot be manipulated easily and they might stop annoying you any further.

No explanations or justifications

The idea is to recognize the person who is pushy and stay away from them and out of any conversation mode. Instead of falling into their trap of “solving your problems,” stay far away from conversing at length with people who might turn pushy. If cornered into a situation, learn to say no without providing detailed justifications for your action. Your explanations might make you look more of an indecisive and passive person and open an avenue for the pushy ones to push their way through.

Hear out their theories without giving in

Setting boundaries with family members can be difficult and quite tricky. So while dealing with family members who are trying to be pushy and difficult, lot more tact is required than outsiders. Here you can hear in detail to their side of the option. Then question and cross-question on their belief and reasoning for the option, but at the end, make it very clear that you are firm in your decision and not willing to change your mind. This will make your intentions sound more positive and well formed. By giving them a patient hearing, you allow them to express themselves fully and then by not giving in to their whims, you are making it clear that you are decisive and firm in your outlook and not to be swayed easily.

Dr Prem Jagyasi

Dr Prem Jagyasi

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Author of several life improving guide books – Dr Prem is an award winning strategic global leader, successful chartered consultant, personal branding expert and global trainer.  Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries to work with above 150 international organisations and to speak in global conferences. Dr Prem has published several guide books and numerous niche websites which have millions of reader across the globe.
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