A guide on how to deal with difficult and overconfident children

Children aren’t the easiest people in the world to manage. As a parent, when it comes to your children, you learn as you go. Especially when it comes to overconfident children. How do you, as a parent, establish a balance between your child’s confidence and humility? Where do you draw the line? How can you deal with your child’s overconfident streak and inform them where they are going wrong? Your children could be getting more careless and you may not have acknowledged it. Here is a step-by-step instruction guide to deal with overconfident children.

Why it is awful?

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Being brimming with oneself is not an attractive quality and this has a tendency to influence their associations with their family, companions, associates and even acquaintances. Rate your capabilities and accomplishments however don’t rate yourself as an individual, in view of these. It is essential that we weigh arrogance in a child when they are little so when they grow up, they are not beasts yet practical great individuals. This is essential when you deal with overconfident children.

Furthermore, since this conduct has its own particular set of repercussions, it needs to be checked. One must understand that titles, occupations, marks, cash don’t characterize an individual. Similarly, failures, insufficiencies, setbacks, don’t make an individual terrible. As long as you will be you, you will dependably remain human — not predominant or subpar.

Absence of Awareness

More often than not, careless individuals are not mindful of their conduct. Same applies to children and more in light of the fact that all things considered, they are just kids and their feeling of good and bad for the most part hinges on upon what their guardians show them so consequently, the family and companions of such people required to make them conscious of it. To deal with overconfident children, make them aware of their overconfidence. That’s the first step.

Adapting to careless children – one of the best ways to deal with overconfident children

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– Make your child recognize that every unique child has its own particular separate aptitudes and qualities. One ought not to surmise that they are the main ones who know and do everything right.

– Teach your kid to like others for their capacities — one may be superior to you at specific circumstances and work strategies. Realize that the proficiency of the circumstances is imperative.

– Teach your kid to not underestimate things. Continuously show them great conduct like stating ‘Thank you’ and ‘Please’.

– Teach your kid to be adaptable and open to taking in. Tell them that they don’t know everything yet. Show them how to address things they don’t have the foggiest idea about. This will impart in them curiosity which is a positive sign.  

Is it accurate to say that it is unsafe? 

Weighing carelessness is in no chance hurtful to the mental development of a child. Being a sure child is great, however, carelessness can make him lose companions and that is terrible when growing up. Social life is vital to a kid when growing up. As long as you educate your children to be lower without whipping his certainty, you are good to go. This is one of the best ways to deal with overconfident children.

It goes without saying that if your children are overconfident, they might be difficult to handle as well. Fret not. Here are some ways for you to deal with difficult children. Read on to know more.

How to deal with difficult children

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There are some children who are very difficult right from the time of infancy and parents have a hard time dealing with such children. With the passing years, the child may become stronger willed and make life difficult for the parents and others. Here are some ways of handling such children as they are generally the ones who feel lonely, isolated and helpless despite their defiance.

Helping your child understand

You can convey to your child about how you feel towards his/her behavior and how to change these things. Choose a suitable time when your child is in a good mood and is playful with you and tell him/her in a firm but gentle tone. Let him/her know that you are in charge as the adult and this discussion ought to be taken seriously. The child must be made to understand that you have made a decision to tackle his/her defiant attitude in a firm manner. If your child is not in a mood to listen, then you can wait and broach the subject another time.

Be diplomatically patient

Be diplomatic

When you are patient and diplomatic in your approach towards dealing with a difficult child, the outcome is more favorable in the long run. By taking time to cool off and sorting out your emotion without taking immediate action against a child’s behavior, you can avoid doing something which you may regret. Tell the child at an appropriate time about such bad behavior and the consequences that can occur due to his/her behavior. This is a way of giving the child freedom to make choices about his/her behavior which can have bad consequences later. When children are given the choice they generally become more in control and responsible.

Find something good in the child

Children who constantly misbehave can really give you nightmares but there is a reason why they behave badly. Try to find something good and positive in the child and let him/her know that you believe in their ability. The child who is naturally looking for attention will begin to appreciate your feelings towards his/her capabilities and will gradually stop misbehaving.

When you try to understand why the child is misbehaving then you can change certain things which may be aggravating the behavior. Give them the due attention and praise them when they do something which is good for everyone. Under no circumstances should you get into a power struggle with the child. Rather, try to be calm and collected when you are dealing with such situations otherwise the child will show more resistance.

Love them, but not blindly

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Many people are so much in love with their children that they totally ignore the risks of pampering their child too much. It is obvious for a parent to feel attached to his children but this should not lead to their downfall. It is sometimes important to let your child feel a little disappointed when his demands are unreasonable because otherwise, it will grow into a dreadful habit. Later when they grow, with them their demands will grow too and by that time they would have become accustomed to the royal treatment. Any attempt to turn down their pleas will make them livid and invite their rude behavior. If you want your child to not become so unpleasant, please bear their small tantrums when they are young rather than face violent protests when they are old

Make them earn their rewards

When you shower your love on your children unconditionally, you are actually making them weak and ignorant. A fish that has always got food and water inside a jar will never survive when thrown out into the seas. To make your children fit enough to survive the world and manage their rude behavior; you must make them realize that they have to earn everything. There are no free meals in this world and this is a lesson that should be ingrained in their minds very early on.

Never refuse them if their demands are reasonable, else they will become dejected and hopeless. But always set them some target, however small, to achieve and give them what they want as a reward they have earned and not as a gift. It will make your child feel more confident, make him realize his own potential and also let him know of his limits.

Be a good role model, spend time with them

Be a good role model

Your child always looks up to you for everything; you are his role model from the very beginning. The child will emulate you in whatever he does. Hence, you have to be a perfect role model for your children because they are always keeping an eye on you. And the problem of bad behavior from young children that most people face is because parents do not spend any time with them. The child, while growing needs your guidance at every step and your presence will prevent him from catching any bad habits and make him respect you. Buying an expensive gift will not make up for your absence, hence set your priorities right. A small child is like soft clay, any good attributes that you want him to imbibe should be instilled early on because once the clay gets dry, it can only be broken.

How to teach children to be thankful

Gratitude is one of the great human virtues. It instills humility in overconfident children. Someone who is thankful for all that has been bestowed upon him is never a selfish or jealous person by nature. The sense of gratitude and to be thankful is however not an inborn characteristic of humans and you need to develop it in your child. Teaching gratefulness to preschoolers is a great way to help them develop into humble and happy human beings in their lives. Here are some ways how to teach your children to be thankful.

Some guidelines on how to teach children to be thankful

1.     Have them say ‘Grace’ before each meal

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This does not necessarily have to be religious although it can well be addressed to God if you so wish for. But the art of learning to thank the fortune and the powers that bring your child food can enrich him for his future where he learns to appreciate his meals and the source it came for.

2.     Give the reality check

Tell them about the poverty stricken state of so many parts of the world like African and some south Asian countries. Instead of living in a utopia it is better for your child to realize how very fortunate he is to be getting an easy access to food. Show them the state of these parts of the world on television if it is not feasible for you to take them there. Visions would be impactful.

3.     Be grateful as the parents

While explaining thankfulness always remember that your kid picks up the most easily from you. They see you the most in their lives and what you do in your life has a profound impact on the little minds. So be thankful and grateful for all that you have. Frequently express your thoughts in front of your child. This would go a long way in helping you raise an appreciative kid.

4.     Do not spoil them with too many things

It is easy to spoil your child with all that he asks for and even more. But this results in the terrible consequence that they don’t even love the things they possess anymore. So learn to restrict what you allow your kids up to the point where it suits their necessities. If you are teaching gratefulness to preschoolers, we cannot stress enough on the importance of this habit.

5.     Teach them to serve others

You can have the practice of going for a meals-on-wheels drive every week. You will be serving the homeless and the poor and your kid will start picking up on the good habits. They would also get to see how tough and rough it is out there and how people are so vulnerable in comparison to the kid in terms of availability. This would go a long way if you are pondering over how to teach your children to be thankful.

6.     Teach them the love for God

This one is not for the atheists. But for others you can always start teaching your kids how to appreciate what they have by first teaching them about what we are all grateful to which is God. By imbibing in him the fact that we are all extremely lucky to be living hale and hearty and that it is a grace of God, they soon start grasping the concepts easily.

7.     Ensure that they don’t have all they want

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That is precisely what life is about isn’t it? Not having certain things although we desperately want to have it. So every once in a while you try your hand in explaining thankfulness, ensure that your kid is deprived of a thing or two. You can hold it back for a certain time period and then bring it on. It teaches the kid the art of waiting or that he may have to wait in life too for what he wants.

8.     Teach them generosity

If you see your kid is giving his or her favorite toy to a friend, praise the act profusely or maybe even reward him for that. The art of giving also ensures one knows the values of all that he has. Generosity is thus a very positive and important step towards gratitude.

9.  Let them learn responsibility

This is a must if you are wondering how to teach your children to be thankful. Never bail them out from some responsibility that they have. They need to value their tasks and work and treat them as their own. Let them face the consequences for their decisions.

10.   How to teach your children to be thankful from infancy

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If you thought that the process of raising an appreciative kid starts when he or she is above three years of age, think again! Even your infant can pick up from certain behavior of you that you are grateful to have him. So when you can have some fun canoodling with your infant telling him or her how very lucky you consider yourself to have him in your life.

Final Words

Explaining thankfulness to your young can go a long way in developing him/her as an individual. These are lessons that form the core of your kid’s nature and you can hardly afford to get this wrong. With our tips at your service you can safely eliminate the risks of teaching it wrong. We hope the implementation goes well and you can raise an appreciative kid.

Dr Prem Jagyasi and Team

Dr Prem is an award winning strategic leader, renowned author, publisher and highly acclaimed global speaker. Aside from publishing a bevy of life improvement guides, Dr Prem runs a network of 50 niche websites that attracts millions of readers across the globe. Thus far, Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries, addressed numerous international conferences and offered his expert training and consultancy services to more than 150 international organizations. He also owns and leads a web services and technology business, supervised and managed by his eminent team. Dr Prem further takes great delight in travel photography.

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