For a majority of teenagers, their parents are annoying. So, how come the person who has supported and guided you through the better part of childhood suddenly turns annoying? Even how can they seem to be crazy or interfering? This perception of parental behavior has got a lot do with our own psychological upheavals. Read on to know more about how to deal with annoying and crazy parents or how to make them appear less annoying.
You and your parents are generations apart – understand this simple fact
In dealing with annoying parents, it is important to understand the generation gap. We are living through an age where everything is in a state of constant change. It is often taken for granted that your parents know more than you. They have been through enough in life to know its pros and cons. Hence, their experiences and refusal to embrace changes has left an impact on the way they and behave. If their thought processes are narrower than yours, then accept it the way it is. All a parent wants is to keep their children safe from adversities in life. They consider themselves to be the ones responsible for your well-being. True that at times your parents might go over board with their remarks or thinking. However, it needs to be understood that these people are the biggest set of well-wishers that you can have. If the normal persuasions donât work, then take a different route. In a calm and objective manner, share your ideas with them. This is to make your parents understand the current scenario. After all, apart from voicing concerns, parents also appreciate listening to their children speak. Therefore, make them realize that you are doing the right things in life or at least doing them in a way that your parents would want them done.
Get the situation rationalized
Parents’ reactions to simple things often get us irritated. They flare up on the simplest of things-outbursts that not only hurt you but might tarnish your social reputation as well. Hence, instead of arguing back, make sure that your proposals or decisions do not hurt them. With a little effort from your side, the situation can always be rationalized. In judging your parents or checking the parameters their decisions are woven around, be sure to adopt a careful and logical approach. By explaining the situation a bit more appropriately, you can get both your and their expectations fulfilled. Parental decisions are driven by a plethora of considerations. A positive consent from parents is all it takes to gain success and confidence in dealing with them
Obey their wishes
If your parents are trying to advice you something, then make sure that you at least obey their wishes. By agreeing to their opinions, you will never feel regretful about your decisions. It is important to listen. Refusal to obey parental decisions often gets in a bad situation. After all, there is no point denying that your parents are much more experienced than you. Inexperience coupled with the psychological oscillations of youth may land you in a pool of trouble.
Always remember that whatever you parents are saying are for your benefit and well-being. Very few parents would force their way with children simply because it gives them mental satisfaction to do so. In case you feel that your parents are just capable enough to advice you, then it won’t take before you start realizing the obvious loopholes of the thinking. The decisions you make against your parent’s wishes may work for a very small period, but in the long run their effectiveness is doubtful.
Try and understand their importance in your life
Parents are the biggest binding force and hence, might want you to act or behave according to their wishes. You, on your part, should refrain from getting annoyed each time you are asked to obey them. It is never good to consider your parents as annoying. It is important to feel their importance in every walk of life or else you might as well be left alone. In a world where relationships are getting increasingly complicated, parent’s bond with their children is but one of the very few human ties that continues to maintain its sanctity and purity.
Your parents are selfless and will always be that way, at least towards you. Hence, start by checking their viewpoints. A positive attitude is all that you need. Try and maintain your calm, irrespective of how heated the conversation between you and your parents gets. Show them the obvious merits and demerits of a situation. By doing so, you can at least stop them from annoying you further. It is their dream to see you in a position of respect and reverence. They are just trying to act like safeguards. Hence, do not, even for once, view them as hurdles.
Show respect to your parents and get respect in return
A little respect is all it takes to break the ice. Even your parents are acting weird they ultimately have your best interests at heart. It is them that you can fall back on when life gets too difficult to handle. If you start respecting them, they, in turn, will begin to rely on you. On the contrary, disrespect will only increase their mistrust in you. No parent can exactly start hating their children for not showing enough respect to them, yet all the same the insults and quarrels make the bond weaker. It needs to be remembered that parents are the biggest support base you have. In case there is a misunderstanding or they refuse to accept your proposal, refrain from panicking. Rather, adopt a different approach. Try and understand their viewpoints. Do anything that you are asked to. Gradually, a time will come when you can see that they have started giving positive replies. Hence, patience is the ultimate keyword to success in dealing with cases of parental troubles.
How to deal with crazy parents
Even though you have a strong bonding with your parents, quarrels may erupt between you. This may be somewhat similar to annoying parents. You may wonder whether your parents have gone crazy! The generation gap sets a trend that is difficult for a parent to understand. So, instead of quarrelling, you should know how to deal with their parents even when they seem crazy. Let us take a look at some of the ways.
Stay calm till they cool down
Parents tend to lose their cool on few issues. Generally, what the youths do is shout back at their parents. This is really wrong guys! Make an effort to understand what they are telling. Forget understanding, just sit clam till they finish what they say. If you know what you have done is right and yet are being yelled at, don’t give it back to them.
Listen to what they have to say and when they are a little chilled out, you can explain whatever the truth is. Listen from one ear and let it pass out through the other one. This makes life really easy. You do not have to get into conflicts with parents and bring them to a foul mood. This will only worsen things. Also remember, parents are usually right. Don’t just take them for granted, they are wise and they act for the best of their kids. The least you can do is to bring them back to their cool and talk to them.
Let them know where they go wrong in a polite way
It is human tendency for a parent to just ignore few things said by their children. They usually have this notion that their kid is wrong. And when the kid comes to correct them they are usually offended and they start acting crazy. It is not only with parents, but most people get offended when they are being corrected or talked back. The simplest way of handling such a situation is to sit with your parents and tell them what they are doing is freaking the others out. Tell them what act of theirs is crazy. They are mature and they will try and understand. Don’t be unreasonable to them by ignoring them because they embarrass you. This will not work well and they’ll just act crazier.
Ask them to take a break
Relationships land up in situations where nothing much can be done. You just feel everything is falling apart and when this is the situation that exists in a parent’s life, they start acting crazy. In these situations, you can talk them over but when things are really worse, ask them to take a break. Ask them to plan a trip to some place where they can find inner peace. In case they are not in a position to do that, plan a vacation for them. You can also go with them. They could use your support to get out of situations that make them act crazy. Remember, it is never an intention of a parent to act crazy, it is just the things they go through, all the rubbish they hear in the society and depressing stuff like that, which make them act crazy. So just try and hang out with parents.
Try spending some quality time with them
Like mentioned above, hang out with parents. They would love that and this would help them understand you better. This could be the opportunity for you to talk to them and get everything sorted out. There always will be small issues due to the age difference but this can be dealt with by making reasonable agreements. All the parents want is their child’s well being. If that is assured, why on earth would they act crazy? In fact they will be more than accommodative with your freaky activities.
Parents at the end of the day want to spend some time with their family. Make sure you do that. It is not difficult. You need to give them just a little of your precious time and they will be happy. You’ll probably never use the word crazy to describe them when you give them some time of yours. Finally, they are the ones who nurtured you.
Give them the required space
People need space of their own. Parents need their space too. Today’s world leaves behind a great impact on people’s minds. This is the same case with any of the parent out there. Instead of making life difficult for them, give them their space. Let them sneak out with friends and the ones they love. This will distract their mind and refresh them.
How to deal with interfering parents?
Parents can seem to be too much interfering at times! This is no less annoying for kids. This is because, when kids grow up they start taking most of their life’s decisions pertaining to their education and social life. They become sensible and capable enough to take decisions for their life and here is the hitch.
While a number of parents are lenient and willing to listen to their kids, there are some parents who are adamant on their decisions and try to hold their kids tightly and even control their lives with strict rules and regulations. Authoritarian parents even steer their kids towards the path they think is best suited for them. So we have parents who push their kids to the activities which are of no interest to their kids, they even ram their kids into studying law or medical and other tough subjects even though their kids are fascinated with other fields of study.
Such kind of interference with strictness often creates problems for kids. While some kids go along with their parents’ decisions without uttering a word, although they are not willing to do this; there are kids who act rebellious and display their resentment quite openly. In these situations, families often drift apart, which is good neither for both parents nor for kids. In the families where kids’ feelings and choices are suppressed are not considered to be happy families and sooner or later such relations become shallow and one day they become estranged.
The predicament in this situation lies with the nature of the parents or may be in their past life. However, there are ways that can be adopted by kids to deal with the circumstances.
Try to identify the root cause
Most of the time parents behave like an ‘agony aunts’ creating problems in their kids’ lives, but there may be some cause to this behavior. For smart kids, it’s quite necessary to know why their parents are acting in such a manner. Probably your parents have experienced such kind of behavior in their childhood and they want to continue the family legacy! If this is the case then you must make them understand that it is not essential to control the kids in order to get them disciplined.
Talk to parents and let them know the issue
Sometimes parents don’t comprehend that they are interfering in their kid’s life. So, it is a requisition to let them know what they are doing. There is no need to be a rebel, try to talk politely about the issue and make them understand that you have grown enough to take your life’s important decision. However, their consent is always necessary.
Praise your parents
Quite often parents compare themselves with other parents and they are always fearful that other parents are giving a better life to their kids in comparison to them. In this competition, parents try to do things that are not liked by their kids. They try to push their kids into personality development classes or may be getting them involved in a sport not liked by the kid. Parents try to use their kids’ as hocks in order to win the race with other parents. In this scenario, it is the duty of the kid to tell his or her parents that they are the best and they are giving the finest life to them, so no need to be extra-cautious and extremely interfering.
Try to say ‘No’ for at least little things
Saying ‘No’ to parents doesn’t mean to go against their wishes. Nevertheless, say ‘no’ for at least those things that are not of your interest. Like if you do not want to study medical then let them know that you are interested in other subject and tell them the advantages of that subject. Also try to talk to them about your wishes rather than staying quiet.
Discuss the issue with some other family member
If the things are out of your control then it is advised to discuss your problem with any other trusted member of your family. Do not complain about your parents, but tell about their behavior. May be that family member can make your parents understand about you dilemma. However, try not to overreact in front of others as it may diminish the rapport of your parents that you surely don’t want.
Parents’ interference is not bad in kids’ lives, but excess of everything hampers the quality of life. So, it is necessary to control the situations before it becomes severe.