Ambivalence and Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder – not many people know about this psychological disorder, or there are the ones who have little knowledge regarding this disorder. To understand this disorder, you first need to acquaint yourself with the major symptoms related to borderline personality disorder, which are the turbulent nature that makes it hard for the sufferers to maintain relationships or to stick to their jobs for a good period.

Borderline Personality Disorder

They often display emotional outbursts ranging from verbal abuse to physical attacks and they tend to keep grudges. They hate and fear rejection and abandonment like anything but still they are too critical regarding their closest relations. They cannot experience stability in their emotions and behavior, like one moment they feel elated and the next moment they feel dejected. They cannot view other people as a mix of good and bad, it is either good or bad. They get fits of unbearable emptiness in which they try to harm themselves in every possible way, like drug addiction, reckless driving, cutting themselves, and eventually a suicide.

Many psychological theories support the fact that BPD is a problem that has its roots deep-seated in one’s childhood. This condition surfaces in a person because of some major childhood trauma. In majority of the cases but not all, it has been observed that people who have BPD also suffer from the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. These people who have had traumatic experiences in their childhood continue to face their devastating effects, and this is how they develop Borderline Personality Disorder.

Rejection and abandonment scares BPD sufferers too much and this raises the level of destructiveness in them. BPD sufferers react abnormally, like one moment clinging to their loved one and the very next moment they withdraw themselves and provoke the partner for a fight, and this way they damage their relationships.

Borderline Personality Disorder

People suffering from BPD feel that they do not deserve love and they blame themselves for the fact that they never got love from their parents. They experience ambivalence, as in they want love and hate it too because they associate love with meanness and rejection.

BPD sufferers believe that they are bad and lack good qualities, so they indulge in self-destructive behavior. This behavior of theirs hurt other people also who are in close relation to them. The society calls these people troublemakers and the normal people of the society do not like them. Normal people fail to realize that the reason behind this behavior of BPD afflicted is the trauma that they must have faced back in their childhood. In most of the cases the trauma is related to family abuse.

Owing to the self-centered and kind of indifferent nature of parents the children feel unloved and avoidance. They do not give sufficient love to their children but they always expect their children to meet all their expectations and deal with them in a rigid way, which makes children feel that they are incompetent, helpless and bad.

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Such an atmosphere makes a child too aggressive and they grow up into a person who has ambivalence, confusion, and sometimes they suffer from dissociation disorder. People suffering from BPD need special care and attention. Their family and friends can help them get over this disorder and live a happy life in many ways like to make them realize all their good qualities, so that the level of their self-esteem increases.

Even if they behave badly, the family and friends should maintain their calm and deal with them affectionately. You do intensive research on the very subject and therapies of Borderline Personality Disorder, so that you are in a much better position to understand the behavior of the person afflicted well and accordingly you can take steps to cure them. Encourage them to go in for therapies and BPD treatments.

Dr Prem Jagyasi (c)

Dr Prem is an award winning strategic leader, renowned author, publisher and highly acclaimed global speaker. Aside from publishing a bevy of life improvement guides, Dr Prem runs a network of 50 niche websites that attracts millions of readers across the globe. Thus far, Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries, addressed numerous international conferences and offered his expert training and consultancy services to more than 150 international organizations. He also owns and leads a web services and technology business, supervised and managed by his eminent team. Dr Prem further takes great delight in travel photography.

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