What is life to you? If you think about what your memorable moments in life are till now, or the times when you have really felt the supreme sense of achievement, you are bound to get the answer. The answer to what makes you happy, or rather what gives you the sense of achievement.
Sense of achievement is very important in life. While instances of being happy gives you a sudden rush of inner peace and thanksgiving to the world and makes life enjoyable, it is the moments of achievement that keeps you going. Provides you the rush of blood that gives you newer energy to move on, to look forward to things. And this sense of achievement always leads to inner happiness within. So it is of paramount importance that one analyzes what giveshim / her the sense of achievement in life since it is different for different individuals.
What exactly is the sense of Achievement?
For each one of us, our happiest and memorable moments are the ones when we feel the unexplainable feeling of winning, the raw sense of achievement, the adrenaline rush of being proud of ourselves and our achievement. Think about it, the cricket match where you scored a century and won, the bully you fought in class and managed to break a few bones of, when you ranked first in class, when you got the better of the girl who dared to ditch you, when you gave back an instant sarcastic retort to a stupid comment made by an equally stupid relative, when you gave it back to the office colleague who was resorting to office politics against you, and the list goes on.
How many times do you keep repeating such incidences with pride to your closest friends or family members and feel that sense of achievement within, an unexplainable feeling of happiness over and over again?
And this is just for all the usual normal people. What then about the ones who are inherently a little revolting in nature? The rebels that you meet in life? For them it is definitely all about the battles and nothing else. Their entire life is all about the different battles they fought and how they won it. Starting from revolting against their parent’s strict house rules during childhood, to breaking college norms to the general societal norms existing for marriage, children, work and the usual living of life, the rebels take pride in breaking it all.
Their most memorable moments are the ones where they have shocked traditional people with their words or antics. The incredible high that one feels in doing that, a feeling that nobody can explain. A feeling that would be relished and enjoyed by thinking about it over and over again. A feeling of happiness sourced from standing up to fight and winning the battle.
So What Makes You Happy?
If you were to analyze your own source of happiness from the above, whether you are inherently a rebel or not, it is plain and simple. Winning battles make you happy. Whatever battle it is and for whoever concerned. It is when you get the feeling that you have done something, is when you usually feel worthwhile and hence happy, isn’t it?
But Stop. Pause. Think about it coolly and rationally. True that this gives you a sense of achievement but does it really make you happy? Or are you just fooling yourself, believing that it makes you happy? Take a step back and think level-headedly.
After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction.
Does the wisdom of the above words strike you? Always remember that there are always two battles to fight to any given situation in life. One external and one internal. Once smaller and easier and one bigger and tougher. You fight either one of them. If you choose the easier battle you lose the other one!
So, haven’t you being choosing all the battles that are smaller and easier to fight? Think about it. What you are essentially doing is conveniently fighting the easy battle out and letting yourself belief that you have won it! You know this deep down in your heart but you choose not to see. Look inside and analyze. The true sense of achievement, the inner peace that you have fought the bigger battle and got the better of life is what can give you true happiness and inner peace.
The bigger battle is always about not giving in to your instincts, taking a step back, taking a rational decision and forcing yourself to look towards the better direction of things. The bigger battle in life is always about being wise and matured. So ask yourself, have you won the bigger battle or not?
When a colleague resorts to office politics against you, your easier battle is to resort to equal or worse politics against him to get revenge and your bigger battle lies in turning away from the seemingly easy and attractive path towards a better direction – The direction of proving to all only through performance and hard work without going down to your colleague’s level and resorting to similar negative activities. This is the true battle which you have to win in order to find real true happiness and inner peace.
Try it and see. The feeling of taking the right decision to remain righteous and ethical in your thoughts and deeds, even in the face of adversity, the decision to look away and do what is for the best for all concerned, including yourself would give you so much inner sense of achievement, happiness, inner peace and fulfillment, that it is unfathomable and unimaginable. One’s sense of achievement and happiness should generate from wisdom within, when you achieve what others can’t, when you achieve this true bigger battle in life.