We come across various kinds of people in our life and it is not necessary that we will be fond of everybody we meet. The following are a few steps on how to deal with people that you don’t like.
Find a cause for your disliking
When you feel that you donât like a particular person and yet you have to deal with them someway or other, first try to figure out why you donât like them. Try to do a little bit of research into it and find the reason behind your disliking for him. It may be their physical appearance which makes you avoid them or is it some of their habits that you find annoying. It may also be the case that you detest them because you are yourself jealous of them. Always try be open minded and do not be egoistic or biased in your approach. If you find the reason behind your hatred, try to curb it by talking to them or discussing with your friend.
Give them a reason to like you
Now that you know why you dislike them, sort out your differences by talking to the person. If you are well established and have a many friends who also share your disliking for the person, be empathetic towards them. Try to realize how difficult it must be for them to be disliked by so many people and extend a hand of friendship. You must give them a reason to like you and to make an effort to be liked by you. Donât treat them with disdain or carelessness; their feelings are as important as your own. Sowing seeds of hatred will not help you in anyway, be polite and gentle towards them. Being nice to someone you donât like will give you a kind of mental satisfaction that always accompanies a good deed.
Ignore their defects before ignoring them
Nobody is perfect, neither in their good characteristics nor in their bad attributes. This implies that everybody has at least something good about them. Do not try to focus on the bad qualities of a person whom you dislike, on the contrary like them for the good qualities that they possess. It is unlikely that they will be worse than you in every field, hence acknowledge them where they are better and respect it. This respect for them will help you to start liking them. If you have made your best efforts and still are uncomfortable with them, simply avoid them. Try not to discuss the particular person and completely avoid being drawn into any arguments. Be polite, mind your own business and interact as less as possible so that you are away from any possible conflict.
