Most children find it difficult to deal with over protective parents. Being over protective is not bad; it just depicts your parents’ love for you. When you deal it in the right way, you can easily overcome this problem.
Speak frankly
Be bold to open up your views and ideas to your parents. When you try to hide something from them, they could easily identify it. In fact, such incidents make them lose hope on you. Be frank to your parents about everything. They know more about you which you might not know. Speak about your plans, decisions, likes and dislikes, wishes, etc, to them, so that they can understand about how you wish to live your life. Have an open mind when you seek for your parents’ permissions. Think affirmatively, even if your parents had objected your decisions and wishes in the past. Communication is the best key for mutual understanding.
Make them trust you
Parents become over protective because they might not find you confident enough to make your own decisions in your life. In fact, they fear about your life more than you. That’s the true love of parents. However, being over protective annoy children when parents intervene in less important matters too. They have experienced life more than you, but it doesn’t mean that you will have to experience your life in the same way as they did. In order to remove their fear about you, do something that will prove your trustworthiness. Don’t voluntarily take actions to create trust; instead, use the opportunities and circumstances in your daily life to make them trust you.
Compromise
Most children find it annoying when parents object them to use mobile phones, stay late at friend’s home or go for a dinner party. One of the best solutions to deal such situations is by giving them alternate ways to reach you, if something worse happens. Compromise with them with all the possible solutions like giving your friend’s mobile number or his/her mom’s contact number, address details, itineraries, etc. Convince them that you won’t involve in any mischievous activities and assure them that you will return home safely.
Keep your word
When you give assurance and make promises, try to fulfill them for sure. Because, if you fail to keep your word, you parents will never trust you again. On the contrary, once you keep your assurance, your parents will start trusting you. Progressively, they will believe that you will keep your words in the future as well. Use the right circumstances to make them build more confidence on you and your decisions. At one point, they will feel that you can manage yourselves without others help. However, as parents, they will keep caring about you at all times.
Take chances
Don’t be afraid to use opportunities to prove your capacity in making right decisions. When you don’t have confidence in yourself, you cannot expect your parents to trust you. The best way to build confidence is by taking chances when opportunities knock at your door. When a friend invites you for a birthday party at midnight, believe that you will attend the party and return home safely without causing trouble to yourself and others as well. When you take such risks boldly, things will turn up in your favor. Know your duties and responsibilities at home as well as in society.
Use their weaknesses
Your parents too have weak points and sentiments. When you use them properly at the right time, you can easily convince them. However, you must be aware about their weaknesses and strengths. Don’t try to use them always as it may make them realize that you are misusing their weaknesses. For some children, their father might be very close to them than their mom, and vice versa. Make your first approach to your very close relation like your mom, dad or your siblings who will likely support your plans. With their help, approach other people in your home. This technique works quite well for everybody.
Have patience
Children must understand that building trust takes some time for parents too. They must stay patient until their parents have complete faith and confidence in them. It might take several months or years depending on the children’s behavior and affirmative progress in his/her decision making skills. Remember that your parents know a lot more than what you know about yourself. They might be correct while you make take wrong decisions. Listen to their advices. If you hope that you can manage your situations, then convince them with your strengths. Don’t feel that they always object your decisions. Be positive and make your decisions wisely. After all, they are your parents who wholeheartedly care for your well being.
