Neighbors play a very important role in our normal lives and if they are nasty, they can disrupt our lives easily. Here are a few ways to deal with unpleasant neighbors.
Know yourself
When we encounter new people who do not share our likings or ways of doing things, we think that they are at fault. Same is the case with having new neighbors who we arenât used to. We find them irritating and troublesome without judging our own actions and behavior because our older neighbors were not complaining and were like us only. People may differ from each other and their likings may differ because of different upbringing and cultures. It is unfair to judge everybody using the same set of rules and we therefore should try to curtail our activities where we find that our neighbors are not comfortable.
Find the cause
We should not blindly blame our neighbor without knowing the root cause behind their rudeness. It is possible that a very simple action may be annoying them and hence making them retaliate by being nasty to us. We should try to find out what would make them feel better and make them more comfortable in interacting with us. It so happens sometimes that very small things affect our neighbors and makes them feel that we are indifferent to them. Very minute alterations in our daily chores may help in making them much more friendly towards us.
Make the first move
When you know that your neighbors are not going to stop annoying you or being nasty, do not lose your cool and make the first move. Extend a hand of friendship towards them, call them over for dinner or simply greeting them with a smile every time they pass by you is sufficient. Do not be egoistic in your approach because you cannot just move away from your home in order to avoid them and realize the fact that you have to face them everyday. Be polite in your behavior and try to move ahead of things that have happened, do not stay seething about what your neighbor did to you.
Address the problem
When you have a problem which your neighbor is not taking care of, visit your neighbor or give them a ring to ask how things are going on their side. Show concern and ask about their well being, do not start complaining directly or threaten them. You must be bold enough to admit your mistake when you find it and promise that it will never happen again. Convince you neighbor that it was not intentional and they can trust you completely.
Recruit an alliance
The best way to deal with a rude neighbor, who is unwilling to budge from his stand and is constantly annoying you, is to build up an alliance of other neighbors. These neighbors must also have been suffering at their hands and would be glad to help you out because you both share a common problem. Talking to these people will help you feel better as you will get to know that you are not alone in your sufferings. The other neighbors may also come to your aid when you are being harassed or offended by the problematic ones. You will feel strong and brave when you have a large number of people backing you. Also when your neighbor notices that so many people are united against him, he may realize that there has to be something wrong with himself else so many people would not be against him and he will mellow down.
Avoid them
When you have tried solving the problem by being nice to them and discussing the problem and still are incapable of finding a solution, itâs better to avoid them. Do not seek any altercation with them or try to show them whoâs the boss because this will only tempt them to annoy you further. Do not humiliate or insult them in front of others. Simply avoid interacting with them in every possible way and stay out of their way. If there is something that they donât like you doing, even if it is unreasonable, try to curtail it. Do not give them an opportunity to say anything to you or annoy you.
Report to authorities
The last resort that you have when dealing with an exceptionally nasty neighbor is talking to the authorities. Know your rights and be sure that what you are demanding is viable and reasonable. Talk to other neighbors before taking this step and go to the authorities collectively. This will make them take you seriously and prompt quicker action and will also protect you from being singled out by the rouge neighbor. It is always better to warn the neighbor once and then only report to authorities because the matter may get out of hands once you have reported.Tthe most important thing to do before you go to the authorities is to make sure that you are not doing something wrong yourself or this plan may backfire and hurt you instead.
