In our fast moving modern day life where relations make and break everyday, it might not always be easy to avoid your ex, especially when he happens to work at the same place as you do. Here are some tips to find easy solutions to deal with a break up at work.
Find ways to empower yourself
You canât alter your emotions but you can control it by deviating your attention and focusing on more productive goals for a better future. Instead of lamenting about your broken heart and crying over split milk by reminiscing what happened in the past when you dated your co-worker, constantly analyzing the reason for your break up, and how heartbroken you feel, set new goals for yourself to achieve and focus on them. Plan a better life ahead for yourself by setting your career goals and where you want to be 5 years hence. This is the time to take a step back from your current path and look at your life in a new way. Think and concentrate towards making a better life for yourself rather than just revolving your thoughts in your past.
Analyze the situation
It might not be an easy solution to switch to a new job all of a sudden, but it might not be easier to deal with your ex at your work place day in day out as well. However, make a static decision by comparing the two to analyze which is a better option for you to handle. This might depend on many factors like the depth of your love relationship, how it broke off, how you and your ex are handling the break up, and what type of work relationship you two share. You need to weigh the pros and cons of finding a new job versus working with a co-worker you dated. Take your time to come to a logical conclusion which also proves to be the best decision for your career and long-term happiness.
Make a clean break from your ex
One of the easiest and safest break up survival strategies is to avoid contact with your ex. But, if you happen to be in the same office and working as colleagues, it can be difficult and almost inevitable to refrain from coming into contact with each other. However, you can opt for a shift to another section or department, or even a transfer to a separate location all together â either in your city or in another state or province. Brainstorm ways and churn your brains to stay at your job, yet avoid interaction with your ex. Remember, the best way to part ways is to part on a healthy and friendly note rather than keeping grudges against each other.
Avoid the temptation to get revenge
Getting into a revengeful act just to satisfy and console your injured and hurt ego is not a very wise thing to do. Talking ill about your ex in office with other co-workers, spreading rumors about his behavior and your intimate relationship with him would only give rise to a dirty picture in the minds of others, thereby risking both your reputations and also an opportunity and reason for your ex to backfire at you. Donât do it, instead act maturely and avoid the temptation to get revenge. Revenge only prolongs the painful emotions and feelings and reflects a dirty picture of you. To deal with a break up at work, you need to focus on healthy ways to let go of someone you love.
Believe in yourself
A relationship break up â whether it was a passing affair with a co-worker which lasted for a short span or a marriage that stretched upto 25 years â can leave you devastated, feeling insecure, self-doubtful and a feeling of despair being built up in you. It can let your self confidence go for a toss. The best way to overcome this situation is to focus on a positive note because what you focus on grows. So, donât concentrate on your pain, resentment and heartache, instead believe in yourself and think positive about the future. Focus on what you want to do with your life and the type of person you want to be. Believe in yourself as a successful, strong, healthy person capable of leaving the past behind and proceeding to achieve a better future life for yourself, never to look back at what is gone and buried.
