Cheating in a relationship is not acceptable whatsoever. It may hurt extremely and the person being cheated can even develop an innate dislike for the opposite sex and may develop commitment phobia later on. Here are some ways to deal with a cheating girlfriend.
Find out the reason
For every action a person takes, he/she needs to be given a chance to justify his/her mistakes. Therefore, finding out the cause of her cheating is a really important step that will help you analyze your own behavior towards her and decide on the course of action you want to take. Tell her to be frank and give the reason behind the cheating. Is she looking at ending the relationship? Does she have adjustment issues? Has she found you to be less attractive than someone else? All these facts need to be checked and reasons analyzed before you can take the final decision. There are times when women do not really intent to cheat, but circumstances might have forced them to be in such a situation. Let her open up as to what happened. If she has herself confessed about the cheating, it is evident that she is guilty and want to make amends. In such cases, do not make the mistake of rejecting her pleas.
Check if your girlfriend is serious about the relationship
How serious is your girlfriend about the relationship has to be analyzed if you have caught her cheating. Some girls just have relationships for fun and do not intent to carry it on for long term. If your girlfriend belongs to such a category, it really is not worth wasting your time and emotions for such a relationship. Be ready to walk out, even if it is a painful experience for you. If your girlfriend had missed certain things in your relationship which made her stray, ask her about it and be willing to make small changes to accommodate her needs and interests. This however, must be done only if both of you are still interested in each other and want to give the relationship a chance.
Give her a chance
âTo err is humanâ and all human beings need a chance to improve and correct their mistakes. Therefore, even if you have been seriously wronged and even if your girlfriend has admitted to her mistake or not, you might want to give her a chance. This is important if you still love her and want things to work out between the two. Ask her if she is willing to stick on without remorse and that you are ready to forgive her for her wrongdoing. Let her analyze her mistake and decide what course of action to take. However, never make the mistake of forgiving her and forcing her to continue the relationship if you still have strong feelings for her. She may not have the same feelings for you in such a case and she would definitely cheat you again.
Get support
Sometimes, a person who is very devoted and has been honest and transparent in the relationship finds that his girlfriend has been making a fool of him and has been cheating behind his back. It would be too much of a heartbreak for him to handle. If you are faced with such a situation, never battle it out alone. Talk to your friends and if needed, seek counseling. This will help you cope with the situation and give you enough time to think coherently as to what you must do about it. Get suggestions and guidance from friends and family and make sure that you do not allow yourself to brood in silence or loneliness. Heartbreaks are always difficult to handle and you need a great support and help to get over it.
Counseling
Relationship counseling is a good idea if you and your girlfriend has decided to take the relationship forward in spite of the cheating episode. As the wound will be still raw in your mind and has chances of affecting your relationship, it helps if you talk to a counselor and seek his advice as to how best to avoid clashes between you and your girlfriend, especially fights that could crop up about the cheating episode. A good guidance and willingness to give it your best will help you sustain the relationship and grow in maturity and closeness as a great couple. Counseling sessions might have to be continued until you are able to completely forgive and forget and leave the incident behind you without bringing it up time and again.
