A cheating man is not acceptable in any relationship. You need to seriously analyse what has gone wrong in your relationship and whether it is really worth continuing the relationship with such a man. Relationship issues are not so uncommon and there are ways to deal with a cheating man sensibly and with tact rather than breaking off on an impulse.
Talk to your man
For all wrongdoings, talking is the best way to sort it out. By talking to each other, you immediately realize where you have been lacking in the relationship and whether it is worth making a try and giving it a chance. Let your man tell you as to what has made him cheat on you. Was it an impulsive action? Ask him if the relationship with the other woman is over or is still on. He might want to move on as he has lost that special connection with you. If this is the case, never try to coax him into the relationship or convince him that things will work out and you must try. Give him space and time to think and do what he wants. Let him know that you will wait for his response after a certain time. If he has been wrong about his feelings for the other woman, your willingness to accept him back will always be the best thing that happened to him.
Assess as to whether it is worth forgiving him
It is entirely up to you whether you want to forgive a cheating man or not. Go through the entire relationship and assess his good points as well as bad. If you find that he is still worth a chance, you must give him that. This is very important if the man has come back to you after he has discovered that he has been wrong about the other woman in his life. You must be very clear as to this is the first and last chance that you will give him and there is no scope or space for cheating in the relationship again. Probably this could help him realize how much you value him and how wrong he had been to cheat on you. Be willing to take a chance and forgive him.
Be willing to change for him
When you are entering into a renewed relationship, always make it a point to analyse the loopholes and change these so that there are no more issues of cheating and straying. Ask your man as to what he found deficient in their relationship. Let him tell you as to what attracted him to the other woman that he did not find in you. You can make an effort to change for him and listen to what he is looking for in the relationship. Many of us do not realize that we have not been the perfect girlfriend or the perfect wife until our men stray and look for love and intimacy elsewhere. This should be avoided and it is a good idea to have a heart to heart every few months to assess how the relationship is going and what are the things that are lacking in the relationship as well.
Communication and intimacy
Communication and intimacy are two important things that men need to stay in a relationship. Physical intimacy is very important for a man and lack of it or absence of it can make him approach other women, even if he is still in love with you and want to continue his relationship with you. All women must understand this weakness in men and behave accordingly. Never deny physical intimacy and make yourself unapproachable, especially when you have fought with each other. Always make yourself look beautiful and approachable to your man and ensure that the communication channels are always open so that you can discuss everything in your life without reserve.
Coupleâs therapy sessions
Some couples need therapy sessions to get out of the cheating episode and move on in life. This is important if you do not want a separation. Talk about your feelings of hurt, anger, frustration and sadness to your therapist and let him help you sail through the emotions and hurt feelings smoothly. Therapy sessions involve both the partners and such sessions which are attended together will help in analyzing the faults of each other and planning ways by which each partner can get over it without causing heartache and trouble to the other. Therapy sessions will also help you get closer to each other and share an intimacy and love that is very different from what it was before.
