Living with a jealous partner can be a very distressing experience. In most cases, jealousy can lead to disruptions in a relationship and ultimately separation. Here are some ways to deal with a jealous partner before you decide whether you want to separate or not.
Find out the reason for jealousy
Most jealous people are very insecure and have very low self confidence. Such emotions become dominant in their minds and lead to problems in relationships. Check your compatibility quotient and assess if your behavior has anything to do with his/her jealousy, even if it is unknowingly. It could be possible that you are spending less time with your partner and more time with the opposite sex. This could be causing a lot of distress in your partner and leading to jealousy. Jealousy can also arise when you are supremely successful and do not seem to value your partner or share your success with him/her. If it is your behavior that is causing the jealousy, make sure that you change it before you blame your partner for jealousy. Once your habits are changed and you are more forthcoming and open toward your partner, there is no room for jealousy in your relationship.
Reassure your partner
Any jealous partner requires loads of reassurance. This means that you have to be very patient and understanding to your partner and offer him/her lot of reassurance and support to get out of his/her jealous attitude. Be kind and gentle and tell your jealous partner that there is nothing to worry and that you love him/her for what he/she is and nothing else matters and can come in their relationship. The fact that you are so forgiving towards you jealous partner is enough to make him/her more accommodating. With time, your partnerâs jealousy will fade away and he/she will come to trust you more. It is also a good idea to ask your partner as to what makes him/her jealous towards you and what you can do to get him/her out of this phase. Such transparency and open discussions will help in becoming more close and understanding towards each other and soon your jealous partner will see your worth and stop his/her unbecoming ways.
Set certain boundaries
Whilst you have to be more patient and understanding towards your jealous partner, it is also important for you to protect your privacy and need for space and peace of mind. If you find that your jealous partner is becoming very nosy and distrust you for every possible move you make, you need to defend yourself and let the person know that certain behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. However, there is no need to be remorseful and take a tone of complaint. Tell your jealous partner that his/her ways are becoming very difficult to deal with and affecting you mentally. Talk lovingly and with reassurance so that your jealous partner is not hurt by your attitude and feel even more jealous and disruptive. Tell your jealous partner that while you are willing to be very understanding, you do have to set certain limits for your peace as well.
Work towards trust and companionship
When jealousy invades a relationship, it means that your partner has lost trust, faith and companionship with you. When a relationship is based on these parameters, there is no need for jealousy to set in. Assess your relationship and check if you have been deficient in these things lately. Spend more time with your partner, be open and more willing to share and care for each other and above all, treat your partner as your best friend. There should not be any major secrets between you and ensure that there is complete transparency in what you do.
Therapy sessions
Sometimes, jealousy can be very deep rooted and in such cases, you need counselling sessions for the person to fight the emotions and get back to life. A partner who is understanding will be able to help a jealous partner in such cases, as counselling sessions can be very rigorous, requiring your presence as well. You being understanding and supportive will speed up the healing process and prevent newer episodes of jealousy. Ensure that your jealous partner is given prompt counselling if the jealousy is deep rooted and be with him/her all throughout the counselling sessions so that he/she feels loved and cared for during the entire treatment time.
