Dealing with a difficult women can be very intimidating. They can be too strong headed, overly aggressive, ultra sensitive or overconfident. By using these simple strategies, men can deal with difficult women to make their lives more beautiful and happier.
Separating the behavior from personality
Humans have a tendency of attaching a person’s behavior to her/his personality and labeling a trait based on the behavior. Although, it is true that actions define a person’s personality and indicate their personality’s attributes, but it important that you learn to separate behavior from the person. While dealing with a difficult women, it would be wrong to associate their behavior with their personality as their actions might not really indicate who they are.
For instance, if you may watch a difficult women coming late to the office with a strained shirt, then you might be tempted to label her as indiscipline and not careful about her dressing because she came late and had strain on her shirt. But the truth may be that she was late because she was struck at the traffic and someone accidently spilled coffee on her shirt. So, associating the act of being late to her personality can be very wrong, especially if you don’t know the reason behind the act. So, separate the acts of difficult women from her personality because they might not reflect her true nature.
Know her opinions, appreciate her advice
Most of the difficult women turn harsh critics because they have felt disrespected and ignored over the years. Difficult women may be very rude and complaining because they feel that their inputs are not being appreciated. So, the best way to deal with a difficult woman is to include her opinions and inputs. We don’t say that you should take her advice all the time or agree to whatever she says. But you can always appreciate her advice, by thanking her for giving you support. Also, before taking any big decision, you must consult her and know her opinions. Even if you don’t follow her advice or take her opinions, the mere acknowledgement of her inputs can help you deal with her.
Identify the cause
Every behavior has a cause. If your wife or girlfriend is a difficult women, there are high chances that there is a strong causal factor behind her behavior. Identifying this cause can help you deal with her difficult nature. Most men ignore the fact that a women’s behavior is a result of a strong cause that has forced her to act difficult, rude or aggressive. Knowing this cause can help you deal with her. Difficult women generally resort to fighting and arguing because they feel neglected. If you identify the real cause behind her actions then you can find solutions to deal with it. At the same time, you must avoid ‘stonewalling.’ Stonewalling is a phenomenon wherein males tend to delay or block a request or question by refusing to respond. So, don’t avoid responding to a difficult woman, because failure to respond can trigger more aggression, fights and arguments. Moreover, responding to a difficult women will also help her to understand the underlying reasons for her behavior. This way you will be able to tackle a difficult woman effectively.
Switch perspectives
Wouldn’t it be nice if the other person understands how we feel and perceive a situation? Well yes, understanding the perception of other person can help you deal with a problem effectively. In case of a difficult woman, switching perspectives can provide you long term solutions. Difficult women have different choices and alternative ways of dealing with situations. So, if you want to deal with them, you must understand their different choices and ways by switching perspective and understanding their viewpoints. It is difficult and you won’t agree with her all the time, but it will give you an insight about how a difficult woman sees things and feels about different situations. Having a multi dimensional approach to different situations will help you deal with difficult women. It will also reduce the number of fights and arguments.
Start a dialogue
Starting a dialogue and opening communication channels will help you deal with aggressive, difficult women. It will also help you know the missing link that may have been the reason behind their critical behavior. When you decide to start a dialogue, plan ahead and decide what you will do if a difficult woman responds in unacceptable ways. Also, adopt some talking tips to deal with her. Start the conversation by complimenting her with sincere flattery. Point out the wrong behavior without blaming the overall person. Explain what’s the problem in a simple way without hurting her feelings. Pay attention to what you say and how you say it. Focus on your body actions and your tone of voice as they are an important part of communication. This way you will be able to deal with difficult women.
