The death of a child is the worst thing that a mother will have to face. The trauma will never leave her though the intensity of the loss will be considerably reduced as time passes. Here are some ways to deal with the death of your child.
Grieve and give an output to your emotions
The death of a child is unimaginable to most parents. Mothers feel the pain more as they have borne, nurtured and raised the child with great care, devotion, hope and love. To realize suddenly that they will never see their beautiful child around which their life revolved is a cruel revelation. Grief and unbearable pain comes naturally and this is a natural process of the body to cope. Let the emotions fall out and cleanse you. Do not try to bottle up your feelings and emotions in such a situation as it can adversely affect your mental and physical well being. You could be having other kids and family to take care of and your strength and courage in this situation will also help them to cope with the loss. Grieve the loss with your family and come to terms with it by looking at the positive things in life and the future ahead. This may take several weeks or even months, depending on your mental capacity.
Get support and encouragement to live
Your support system more or less decides as to how best and fast you are going to cope. If you have understanding and caring friends and family members, they will make sure that you remain calm, comfortable and composed through the whole incident. They will help you go through the struggle and pain and will do their best to ease the pain and trauma as much as possible. Ensure that you are not left alone at home to fend for yourself as this can double your desperation and pain. This is especially true when the child that you have lost was your only child and you do not have anyone else to call your own. If you are not very sure about yourself, ask one of your friends and relatives to stay back or go stay with them for a change until you are ready to cope and move on.
Talk about your child to others
Do not remain silent and think about your child. This can be detrimental for your health. Talk about your child to everyone you meet. Talk to his friends and teachers and let them talk to you as well and reminisce about his good deeds and strengths. This will immediately make you feel better and that fact that your child was well loved and cherished among his friends and teachers will make you proud of him. Accept the fact that God has loved him too much that he had to go earlier than you. Certain things are meant to be and there is no way you can change it. When you come to realize this, you will be able to take control of your mind and move on in life. Talking about your child to others will help you realize his worth and keep his memories fresh and alive.
Do something memorable
Many parents find that doing something in their childâs memory brings them great joy and satisfaction. It will also keep the memories alive for as much time as you want. It can be giving a certain amount for charity, helping your childâs school financially and starting an award in your childâs name to be given away for certain talents that your child possessed and so on. This will not only keep your mind happy, but will also help your childâs friends and teachers to remember him in all the years to come. Make it a point to also keep in touch with your childâs friends and ask them to drop in once in a while to chat with you and reminisce about the bygone days of happiness and enjoyment.
Need for counseling
Some parents never get over the trauma and go on mourning their childâs death. Such people require psychiatric assistance and counseling to get past the grief and take control of their lives. If you feel that you are terribly depressed and have reached the end of life, do not allow yourself to remain in that situation for ever. Ask your friends or family members to help you seek counseling if they have already not done so. Counseling sessions will help you deal with the loss and gain positive spirit and confidence to live and take control of your family.
