It is very easy to have a crush on someone, but it can be very painful if not dealt with properly. The following steps will help in dealing with a crush.
Don’t show signs of desperation, be yourself
When we think we are deeply in love with someone, our behavior changes totally around them. We try to act foolishly and show signs of weaknesses that never existed in us otherwise. These should be avoided at all costs. You have to be yourself and should not get nervous when you are around your crush, or you are bound to make mistakes which you will regret later. Do not try to keep hinting your crush that you like them, once they get the idea, you should let the matter rest a bit. Hinting that you love them on every single opportunity that you get will just irritate them and ruin you impression. They might even start avoiding you, fearing that you might take some serious step if you get rejected. Also you should take care not to be over possessive. It is easy to get jealous when you have a huge crush on somebody but remember that you do not own them and they have their own life. You may let them know that you are jealous of somebody but it should be in a polite and friendly manner, so that they know that you actually like them.
Be well dressed and maintain hygiene
One thing that you have to take care of is that you should be always presentable when you are around your crush. When you are hopeful that you might run into your crush at some party or place, make sure that you look smart. Do not exert yourself though, by dressing up for a simple casual walk around the park but do not be shabby as well. Also take note of maintaining your hygiene throughout the day and do not be sweaty or dirty when you are meeting them. If you have no other option, suppose you are coming back after playing in the sun for example, then itâs preferable that you miss that chance to catch their eye and avoid meeting them. Always carry a body spray in your bag as it can prove handy and it will also show the attention you pay towards your hygiene.
Donât act too confident or casual
Many people make the mistake of acting too confident and casual in an attempt to counter their nerves and act cool. You must always remember that you can never act cool enough to fool everybody if you arenât a cool person naturally, you just have to be yourself. Acting too confident also puts the wrong impression in the mind of your crush that perhaps you are very over smart and arrogant. Refrain from showing off just to attract you crush towards you, be plain and simple. And when you are expressing your feelings to them, never be too confident, because your nervousness will be a sign of your seriousness towards them. If this nervousness is entirely missing, then there is no chance that they will take you seriously.
Be understanding and be a good friend
You must not always jump into a relationship the moment you get introduced to your crush. Try taking it gradually and step by step. The slower you go, the surer you will be. Just be a good friend to them in the beginning and let them do most of the talking. These conversations will give you a good idea about how the person is in nature. This will help you to decide if you want to stay with them or change your mind. Helping them as a friend will also help you gain their trust and improve your chances of getting their approval. Being a friend will give both of you time and will take care of the compatibility issues.
Donât plan too ahead
Whenever we have a crush on somebody, we spend most of our time thinking about them, daydreaming. And because of continuously thinking over this matter, we make up many assumptions and plans, much ahead of time. Refrain from making any assumptions if you are not sure as it sometimes happens that we do not understand the other personâs gesture and go the wrong way. Even if they are showing signs that they like you, you should still maintain some distance and not jump into proposing. Be very careful about the selection of time and place where you are going to express you love for them. Do not do it publicly, especially in front of strangers, for it may annoy and embarrass them. Always keep in your mind that they might have somebody whom they like, and you should ask them about this straight away, before you get serious about them. Always hope for the best, but stay prepared for the worst.
