When you find out that your partner is cheating on you, it raises diverse questions about how to deal with the situation and whether to continue the relationship. However, knowledge of dealing with infidelity helps in decision making.
Be honest with yourself
If your suspicions are proved to be correct beyond doubts, make sure what should be your next step of action. Think whether you will be able to get over this cheating. The decision is entirely yours and does not depend on the wishes of your family and children. However, if you decide to stay with this person after this incident, it will mean you may have to endure this again in the future. Hence, think twice before taking any step. Just be honest with yourself and decide on what is good for you. Even when you are suspecting someone of cheating you, you should not lose your rationality or objectivity. Do not go insane imagining things that do not really happen. Call a spade a spade
Do not get involved in the game of the cheater
It is wise not to play games with the cheater. They are way too experienced in lying, manipulating and cheating people. That is not your field of expertise. Hence, it will be good if you stick to your weapons, which are essentially of the noble kind. You should use your weapons and bring them down. Otherwise, if you get involved in their game of deceits, you will leave openings for them to attack you unaware. These people will find every small reason to strengthen their manipulative ideas and turn you into a corner. They will try to distract you with these actions and hence will be able to change the course of the discussion. Even worse will be the fact that the way they will mold the topic, you will feel sad for accusing them and end up asking for their apology. You should accumulate as much information as you can about the person. It is really difficult to restrain yourself from asking questions to the person, once you have so much information. However, you should not give yourself away to them. Honesty and transparency are your qualities, not theirs. Keep the facts to yourself so that you can use them at a later date. Because if you tell them now, they will make up stories confidently to counter the facts that you have known about them.
Make them feel comfortable
You should not give away the fact that you are suspicious about the person. You should not stalk them. Just make them feel secure and give them space. In short make them feel comfortable. Behave as if nothing has occurred. In such situations, ask them questions and listen to their replies. Make a mental note of their replies. Again ask the same questions after a few days and listen to their replies. If the answers do not tally, your mission is accomplished. Hence, keeping your eyes and ears open is a basic prerequisite. Keeping a track over the activities of the person is also a must and can help you find out much more about the person. When they feel comfortable, they might own up a few things on their own.
Seek professional help
Taking the help of some professional to solve your problem is also a good decision. Professional help will not only help you to get self-confidence but also have a clear mind about certain issues. The professional will also be able to keep a track of your partner without suspicion. If you can share your suspicions with one or two of your very close friends, make sure that the information that you share with them does not spread further and leads to the formation of unwanted rumors. This can have negative results in many cases. The cheater may become aware of the fact that you are suspecting him and it may become very difficult on your part to prove his infidelity. Moreover, if you have hired professional help, it may also cause problems for the investigation. The professionals would guide you in every way to prove the infidelity done to you.
Confront the Cheater
Since cheaters are great liars and manipulators, you should never disclose all the information you have when you are confronting them. Disclose the information you have, slowly. Unless you have hardcore evidence, do not blame the person. It would be better to ask questions to the person and see how they answer back. Sometimes, they will realize that you are suspecting them and may confess their deeds. However, at times you will have to press harder to get out the truth. Using âI feelâ or âI thinkâ type of phrases which are less direct also help in furthering your questions. If you have evidence against the person, and have decided not to stay with the person anymore, you can disclose the fact that you know all about his infidelity towards you. He may try to deny these facts and make up tall stories. This will further prove you are correct and also show that they are not only cheaters but also liars. These are not positive character traits and hence will help you in sticking to your decision.
