Gone are the days when raising kids was anything but not a headache. Now parents keep their fingers crossed and hope that their child does not turn into an arrogant and insensitive person. Not just the parents, but all the elders have off lately been facing a âteenage-crisisâ. But always blaming the youth would become quite monotonous and stereotyped. If you really want to deal with the youth, you must seek for the following tips that can prove to be handy in the future.
Don’t be a jailer
No matter what you do, teenagers have always got this tendency to prioritize life outside home first. So, rather than repelling to their hormonal characteristics, make them feel comfortable about it. Give your kids the liberty to hang out with their friends; in fact you can get around with them too by letting them know about the latest cafe in town. Donât make your kids feel like a kid now that he or she is growing. Don’t start grounding them just like that; give them their space and let them have fun in a world of their own. Make sure your kids are taught to behave responsibly for such freedom.
Donât start an espionage
Reading private texts or online messages, scanning their personal diaries or spying on your teenaged child in school with the help of some teachers etc, are a few things you must immediately stop doing. Nothing annoys a young-blood more except when someone tries intriguing into their personal lives. If they have something to share, they will let you know about it or else no way are they going to do so; but if you really want to have a check on your childâs activities, make him/her feel comfortable to do so. Make a broad and open conversation with them and let them feel that they can trust you while sharing their secrets. Sometimes being a friend is more fun!
Donât spank, listen
Nothing gets weirder than to see parents slapping their high-school child. Believe it or not, this is the worst example and action you would be doing. Adolescence is a stage where the kids are still growing into a mature person; theyâll make mistakes and it is quite obvious that they get corrected soon. Slapping or beating doesnât really help in any situation; make a room for your kid where he can blurt out his problems without a second thought. Lend your ears to his issues and see what wonders it creates in mending the bond between you two. Remember, your young child is perhaps now an adult or definitely nearing adulthood, and adults carry their own dignity, which should always be respected.
Spend quality time
Go out for family dinners and call for more parties on special occasions like a victory of your kid in a match or a perfectly learnt guitar lesson. The youths are like super-powerful packets that can create miracles if endeavored on a right path, aligned to their passion and interests. Or if not for the public occasions make sure you watch movies together or bake some delicious cookies on weekends. Try helping them with their homework or play family games that are actually meant to be fun. Give them household works to do and on other times, ask them about their friends or other whereabouts. But at the same time donât go over the top; behave cool but not dumb.
Remain the parent
Even after years from now when your children start earning, getting married or having their own kids, the fact remains that they will still be your kids. You try all your best to raise your children in the best possible manner with all the tips and methods but it must come to a halt once you feel it is all going in vain. Donât be afraid to confront things with adolescents, it might be a tough task but eventually it will turn the positive way just as youâd like it. Create reasonable limits for the youth, such that the freedom given to them is not getting misused in anyway. The parents are the incharges of the house; hence it becomes their duty to check their kidâs misbehavior. The teenagers need to be understood by their elders but excess of pampering becomes a problem later on, not just for the guardians but also for the youngsters themselves.
