How to deal with shy men

Making a shy person shed inhibitions and get into a thorough chat is a big challenge. Well, not really if you are smart enough to figure out the right move. A few tips would help you out.

Initiate the talk

If you are dealing with a man who utters a few word for every question that you ask, the onus of starting a conversation would be on you. Be a smart player. Starting off with a genuine hello or a handshake works without fail. Depending on your interaction with him, you can decide the best way to greet him. Shy people tend to live in their own cocoons and hesitate in starting a chat with someone they are not very friendly with. So even if you are the most sexy damsel in town, be prepared to take the charge of a conversation. There is every possibility that the shy guy you have your eyes on, is actually too nervous to come and get chatty with you. So, start off with elan and bowl him over.

Pick a topic of their interest

While shy men may be desperate in their heart to talk to you, sometimes they wonder over what to talk about. For them talking is one huge task. So, break the ice with a topic you think he would be comfortable with. Be careful about what topic you choose to talk on. If you are meeting him for the first time, jumping on some personal question is not wise. Such people tend to withdraw if someone seems too intrusive to them. You can start by asking about his profession and office. If you have met earlier, you can start talking about your last meeting. This would make him easy and you’d find the conversation a little more comfy.

Don’t make them conscious

Men who talk less or are not very open in social gatherings are often very conscious about what people think of them. They talk less because they are a little concerned about casting wrong impression. They’d be much easy to open up with if you are able to make them a little casual and comfortable in the beginning. Don’t show any such behavior that may make him feel uncomfortable. Don’t stare at their outfit, footwear, face or anywhere that may make him realize that you are judging him. Even if you decide to praise him for something, do it with a genuine smile instead of saying something and walking off. This might actually ruin your chances if you wish to interact with him for the second time.

Don’t make a personal remark

Now this one thing can actually put him off. Men, specially shy men, are very guarded. They like to believe that the world knows only what they have told it about them. So don’t dig into some topic of his professional life that you might have heard some common friend gossiping about. Rather be as polite and as humble as possible.

Understand their response

Now this is one really important thing in dealing with shy men. Such men often don’t tell when they feel angry or when they dislike certain things. You have to understand that they don’t express themselves easily. So trying to understand his response over things would make it easier for you in dealing with him. Notice the most common reactions like smile, ignoring, being quiet, ignoring a topic etc. It’s but obvious that if he is not feeling comfortable about some topic or thing it will show. However, if you are able to make him friendly there would be less such moments. Shy people tend to open gradually. Respect that, and he would be floored with your sensitivity and charm.