Mamaâs boys can be very endearing to girls, but it could also be difficult to deal with the constant comparison with his mother that you have to endure when you are his girlfriend. With a bit of tact and maturity, you surely can keep him as well as his mother happy and contented.
Be ready to accept his preference for his mother
The first thing that every girlfriend of a mamaâs boy has to understand is the fact that his mother is his first priority and all others come only after his mother. Understanding this priority and accepting it will avoid a lot of clashes and ill feelings between you and your boyfriend. Any attempt that you would make in order to make you top priority will only have the opposite effect on him. On the other hand, if you willingly accept your second status and do not try to distance him from his mother, he will be more close and accepting towards you. Ensure him that you have no problem accepting his mother and will always be respectful towards her and his preference towards her. This is all that you need to keep him happy and devoted.
Make friends with his mother
All mamaâs boys would want their girlfriends to be great friends with their mothers. More than that, they would look for their motherâs approval when they choose their girls. So, be ready and willing to be under scrutiny and deep questioning by your boyfriendâs mother. Mamaâs boys will have mothers who are mostly very antagonistic towards their sonsâ girlfriends. They would have countless faults to point out to and would always be dissatisfied with you even if you are perfect. Make sure that you are ready to accept all the allegations and still want to stick to your boyfriend. Above all, make a serious effort to be friendly with your boyfriendâs mother. This is one important aspect that you need to take care of if you want a smooth and happy relationship that would progress to lifelong commitment. You must make it a point to ensure your boyfriendâs mother that you are not trying to break their bond and only mean good.
Ignore the inevitable comparisons
There would be several attempts from your boyfriendâs part to compare you with his mother. This could be knowingly and unknowingly and it is important for you to be able to accept such comparisons and not take them seriously. Sometimes, the comparisons and remarks could also come from his mother which could be much harsher than what your boyfriend has ever told you. Always be gracious enough to either accept them and make a willing effort to change if you want to stick to your boyfriend. Never make the mistake of reacting to such comparisons as it can lead to a disastrous end. Whatever changes you make in your habits, behaviors and accomplishments, keep in mind that the comparisons will always be there when you are with a mamaâs boy. So the best way to deal with them is to train your mind to ignore them and be your true self.
Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings
Whatever you do to ignore the remarks and comparisons made by your boyfriend and his mother, there would be times when you will surely feel let down. Some things could be very difficult to accept and hurtful that ignoring them would be difficult for you. In such cases, you must not keep things within yourself just for the sake of the relationship to work. It can lead to adjustment issues later on in life. Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel about the comparisons and how difficult it becomes to adjust at times. A good boyfriend will surely understand your predicament and try to consciously make an effort to stop the comparisons.
Move on if you cannot change for him
Every woman has a unique personality and even though most women are willing to make some adjustments and change for the better, there are certain things that cannot be changed in your life and personality. If you find that things are becoming increasingly difficult to manage and it is affecting your happiness quotient in the relationship, it is best to assess your relationship and move on if you feel that things are not going to work out between you. Make the break up as pleasant and friendly as possible and make sure that you point out the reasons why you feel that he is not right for you.
