The loss of a loved one is always a difficult and traumatic phase in your life. At one point in your life, you will have to deal with it and move on with your life. Here are a few steps to consider if you have lost your loved one and are finding it difficult to cope.
Grieve adequately
Grief is Godâs way of helping man deal with death. Many a time, we have seen people, who do not show any grief, go on to become mentally unstable. Mind cannot bear such heavy burden and keeping your emotions under control will increase the stress and pain in your mind and cause it to burst under the pressure. This is why it is important to grieve when someone has passed away. The flow of tears and emotions will cleanse you and relieve your pent up emotions, burden and put you on to the road to recovery. Ensure that you submit completely to grief when a loved one passes away. Cry uncontrollably and make sure that all your pain flows out of your body before you think of acceptance.
Talk to friends and family
Just like grieving, talking to friends and family about the loved one is another way of accepting things and helping your mind and body heal from the shock. Talk fondly about your loved one to friends and family. They might already know your loved one intimately and might have other fond memories and instances to share with you. Such sharing is considered to offer huge relief from grief and the grieving person will soon feel better and light in his/her chest after having talked so much about the lost family member or friend. Talking to your friends and family is also a way to avoid yourself from suffering in silence. Brooding does not in any way help the heart to heal and will only increase the recovery time in most cases. Therefore, ensure that you have enough friends and family members to share your grief and listen and let listen the sweet memories about your loved one. This natural healing process is a healthy one and also a way of dealing with the loss.
Avoid isolating yourself
Many of us make the mistake of shutting ourselves out from the outside world when we are grieving the loss of someone we cherished a lot. Isolation can lead to extreme mental trauma and in such cases, people require psychiatric assistance and counselling to get away from the loss and accept it as a natural phenomenon that everyone has to come to terms with. Seek the help of friends and family members if you feel that you are completely lost in grief and cannot do anything. Get out and do something that will keep your mind away from thoughts. Visit friends, get back to work, get involved in your kidâs school activities, take control of the lost rhythm in life etc. will help you stay away from thinking too much and making yourself sick. We do not know how powerful negative thoughts can be and how it can affect our lives without even our being aware of it.
Counselling and support
Counselling is required when you cannot accept the loss and take charge of your life. Take the helps of support groups and ask assistance from your friends and family to get back to life if you find that you have been grieving for too long and does not seem to be recovering. Counselling involves making the person understand the situation and letting him see how important it is to move on. There could be kids and other family members who are dependent on you and your being depressed can directly affect their physical and mental well being and future as well. Frequent counselling and support can get the person out of depression and extreme grief.
Memorial activities
There are certain memorial activities which are done by friends as well as family when a loved one passes away. This can be in the form of printed cards which are sent to friends and relatives, arranging mass, church activities etc. You can partake in these activities and arrange for special activities according to your liking to remember your loved one. This can be donations, charity activities etc. which will spread your loved oneâs name far and wide. Such activities will also help you feel better about the fact that you have done your bit to honor your loved oneâs name.
