Being dumped or the rejection to your proposal can scar the heart severely. More than often it’s very hard to come out of the self loathing feeling. You can love a person, a job or have passion towards something and, when such an incident happens that smacks in your face that you are not worthy of improving your stance anymore, the feeling of rejection settles in gradually.
You should understand first that rejection can hurt your self esteem. It comes with a baggage of unhappiness. Anger, aggression, frustration and sorrow are bound to come up along with it. A lot of advices to cope with it are available, but in the real, practical life, it’s often not possible to get oneself out of the dejected feeling.
So, what can be done to the turmoil boiling inside you that can erupt anytime like a volcano? Firstly, you should not suppress that feeling; instead express your emotion in a healthier way. Speaking to a counselor or a coach can be highly motivating. Writing down what you feel or crying out can help in unloading the heavy heart. If you feel like punching someone, take up kick boxing class and release everything there.
The biggest mistake that one tends to do is force upon oneself a surge of positive mindset or sulk endlessly. You should try not to overdo it as you are a human. You should allow yourself some time to go through the feelings without being judgmental about yourself. Giving yourself time can help you to get rid of the feeling of being punished. You should try telling yourself that you have tried your best. Tell yourself if you could have done better, you had already done that.
The next step is to not to take it in a personal level as it can hurt more. Personalizing can multiply our negative feelings about our own selves. With age comes experience. Most of the young people out there should realize that whatever is happening now will teach him or her how to deal with rejection better. If you do not love yourself, it becomes impossible to spread the same amongst others. They can consider it a stepping stone for greater good.
In reality, most of the times, rejection is seldom caused due to what we do. Situations and environment are mostly responsible for setting off an incident that can cause a rejection. Most people have their own reasons for accepting a certain mode of behavior which we can classify as acceptance or acknowledgement.
You should always remember that there is nothing or nobody in the world who can make you unworthy. Accept and love yourself and the whole word will do the same to you.