Life, dear friends is never easy for any of us. Not you, not me, not anyone who has ever been born on this planet. It is a journey that one is destined to travel. A journey which gives one happiness, ironically, only by things that create extreme pain and grief.
Many find happiness in something, while many others find happiness in someone, and for all people, these things or people they are so emotionally bonded with, are also the greatest cause for pain and grief. Sad but true. It is always cases of dependencies, when you feel something would ensure your happiness forever, or cases of bondings when you trust that the person would never let you down, is when you truly feel happy and at peace within and then of course go on to feel the greatest pain since nothing or no one is guaranteed in this world.
Life is cruel. It gives you problems to deal with in areas where you never imagined a problem ever crop up, and that is where the inner pain germinates from. So what do you do about it? How do you deal with life and the pains it throws at you?
Many who are in pain talk about never doing the same mistake again. Never falling in love, never trusting someone else, never depending on one’s career and position in life and then feel despair when it slips away. Never ever.Sounds all too familiar isn’t it?
But thinking that way is childish and stupid. What you would be doing then is essentially blocking all your avenues towards happiness. Stop those natural tendencies which are the base of why we are human beings and different from other species. Simply put, stop living altogether and turn into an emotionless rock.
Be a little matured. Do you think turning into a piece of cold feeing-less rock would solve all your problems? Yes, it might immune you from getting hurt later but what about the complete stopping of all the happiness quotients in life? Aren’t you taking this decision to guarantee happiness only? Then what makes you foolish enough to think that stopping happiness quotients in life is the right path? And what makes you even think that you would be able to turn into a feeling-less rock successfully form a human being? The answer is no, that is not the right way to deal with life and what it throws at you.
What then is the way to feel happy again? How to bring back positivity? Usher in vitality and vibrance, happiness and enthusiasm that makes life worth living again? Many of us who are down in the depths of depression and burnout, feeling tired with life occasionally think of such questions.
The only answer to this is to let things go. Yes, you heard it right. As simple as that and definitely as tough as that! They say that – ‘You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.’
This saying vibrates with truth and resonates with the answer to life’s dilemma. Yes, all the negativity that exists with us and pulls us down further and further till the time we are fed up and tired with life can be dealt with by letting all of itgo.
Remember this, that the reason why all the negativity exists is because your mind has allowed it to remain. You have never stopped thinking about how did it go wrong, what you could have done better, how could that person do this to you, how could you think this was your route to eternal happiness and so on and so forth. So each and every thought are nothing but weights that are tied to your ankles pulling you down and down. The only way to rise up and away is by unshackling all these weights, get rid of them, letting go.
Why One Can’t Let go:
If you want to try your hand at letting go of things in life successfully, first you need to know why usually you fail in doing that. It is because:
- You keep thinking about the past, of the happy times and can’t forget them
- You keep brooding over what went wrong, when, how and why?
- You keep thinking about what you could have done better
- You keep thinking about what you can do now, to bring back the past
- You keep thinking why god did this to you when you didn’t deserve it
- You keep thinking about why this happens with you every time
- You keep thinking that you would never be able to move on again
We are plagued by thoughts of either one or more of the above and end up just not being able to let go.
How to ‘let go’ of things and move in with life:
The term ‘let go’ refers to acceptance. The act of accepting what has happened or how things have turned out, whatever that is, is crucial to generate that positive vibration deep inside you. Remember that your soul is like a magnet and what you make it resonate will attract similar resonance from the nature. In other words, if you cant let go and keep thinking negatively, the thoughts would attract more negative things in your life and you would suddenly see that all bad things are happening to you. However, if you accept what has happened, let go of things and move on with determination, you will feel the sudden rush of positivity in you and all around you. So how do you accept and ‘let go’? Accept a negative life event by:
- Thinking it was your destiny and would have happened anyways
- Thinking that whatever has happened has happened for a reason the wisdom of which you would understand later
- Thinking that every cloud has a silver lining and bigger and better things are waiting for you in future
- Thinking that the good thing that had to come of it has already come out and nothing you would do now would ever make it go back to how it was in the past. Past is past.
- Thinking that god has given you this test because he believes you have the capability to deal with it
Thus, whichever you choose to think and however you proceed, what is important is to generate the feeling of ‘acceptance’, to just let go of the weights and rise up to get the best out of life again!