How to stay confident even after losing your job

Due to the Coronavirus crisis, almost everyone in the world is going through a tough time right now. For those who still have their jobs or at least have considerable savings for the future, things are relatively easier. However, for many others, the same might not be the case. With companies firing employees relentlessly to keep themselves afloat, there are many of us who are now finding ourselves left in the lurch.

Dealing with a lost job often proves out to be a tough task for most of the individuals. It is a fact that in today’s economical hitch, there is a lot of competition for rewarding and well-paid jobs. It is extremely important for you to behave properly after losing on a job or else, it might set you to a bad start. Make sure that act professional after losing employment as it might enhance your career prospects and empower you in the best possible manner. If you have lost your job and you are failing problems in managing the situation, then you need to follow the tips that are listed below. These tips will surely help you to act well on financial, emotional as well as professional levels.

3 Tips to deal with loss of job

1. Control your emotions    

losing a job is an emotional situation

We all know that losing a job is an emotional situation and most of the people suffer from different kind of situations after losing employment like anger, enragement and disbelief. It is obvious that you might feel sad and upset after losing your lucrative job but you must try to act professional and control your emotions. If you have received a letter from your ex-employers, then you must always try to act professionally.

Make sure that you show your inner strength and say a kind Thank You and Good Bye to your colleagues as well as management. There are a lot of people who try to burn bridges by shouting on the management and getting furious on their employers after getting fired. Make sure that you do not act in such manner. It is very important for you to leave a positive impression on your ex employers because they might help you in giving some useful references in future. You must try to stay calm and cool and make a graceful exit.

Employment loss often proves out to be very much stressful and you must always try to spend more and more time with your friends and family members. You must always try to talk with your close friends and family members regarding your job loss. Sharing your feelings with others is really one of the best ways by which you can recover faster. It can also help you to put you mind on the right track. There are a lot of people who need professional help at this point of time. You can also consult a career coach or a psychologist. They will surely help you in identifying your goals and objectives as well as gather your thoughts in the best possible manner. You can also take help of courses and seminars as they might help you in enlarging your networks and references.

2. Monitor your financial resources carefully  

speak to your HR department

Money is the most important issue for most of the people who lose their jobs. It is extremely important for an individual to plan out his monitory resources carefully. If you have received letter from your office management team, then you must try to speak to your HR department and ask them about your compensation for holidays or the severance pay. You can also ask your company for health benefits and other types of coverage. It is very important for you to collect all kind of unemployment benefits from your company because any kind of income is better than none.

It is extremely important for you to work out on an emergency plan. How can you provide an additional flow of money? How can you last on your savings for a long time? These are some of the major aspects that will help you in setting up your budget properly and help you in concentrating on your new job search.

3. Focus on enhancing your future career prospects   

brush up your skills

Job loss is a good opportunity when you can have a look at your past professional life and create some better plans for your future. You must try to identify the reasons for your job loss and try to improve your mistakes. This is really one of the best ways by which you can become more successful in future and enhance your career prospects. If you want, you can consider attending different courses and seminars in order to brush up your skills in a more refined manner. You must try to act flexible and consider expanding your research in new areas. You can also take professional advice in order to give a complete makeover to your career.

It is very important for you to explore all the networking possibilities. You can consider contacting your past colleagues or take help online. You can consider posting articles and videos on the internet in order to make yourself recognized. Make sure that you focus well on your skills and abilities because it takes a lot of efforts in order to give a good kick start to your new career. You must always get yourself prepared in order to accept challenges and try to work as hard as possible in order to achieve your goals.

How not to lose self-confidence?

Losing confidence

Losing confidence is something most of us have faced in our lives. With the job scene becoming tougher day by day the problems of loss of confidence, self-pity and depression are on a rise.But instead of just losing confidence it is better to learn to tackle it and move ahead in life.

1. All are sailing in the same boat

companies closing down

Remember that all go through this phase in their lives. With so many companies closing down and staff being downsized you have to understand that you are not alone. There are many others who are facing this situation and you too have to learn to rise above the situation.

2. Be positive

You have to have a positive attitude in life. You have to learn to tell yourself that you are good and it is just that it is a bad phase or it is that time where there are fewer jobs due to the recession. You have to generate that positive energy within yourself if you want to get over this bad feeling.

3. Understand and reinvent

generate confidence in you

Try to analyze the situation and understand how you can better it. Try to find your shortcomings and try to overcome them. This can mean that you need to take up a new course in order to gain expertise in certain technical aspects or you need to upgrade your skills. Go ahead and do it. This will not only keep you occupied but will also help generate confidence in you.

4. Learn to focus

Learn to be more focused. Instead of just sitting and sulking learn to concentrate more on your ultimate goal and chalk out plans to achieve it. Let bygones be bygones and learn to focus all your energies on new openings and new possibilities. Do research and find out all the possible ways which can help you get you career and your confidence back on track.

5. Keep your mind occupied

Keep your mind occupied

The best way to keep yourself more focused and positivity are by keeping your mind occupied. Try out alternative therapies like meditation, pursue hobbies,meet more people and just be occupied. This will help in keeping negativity at bay and if you manage to do that then it is half the battle won because when there is no room for negative thoughts then you are surely going to have lots of positive energy in yourself.

What to do when nothing helps?

While the above advice must suffice for most of us, there are chances that it still might not be enough to overcome the stress of the situation. The grief can dominate beyond other aspects of life, making it difficult to cope up even with the usual chores. If that’s how your condition is, here are a few things that would definitely help you out.

1. Express your feelings and emotions

feel like crying, cry

Acknowledge your pain and sorrow instead of suppressing it. Accept the fact as it comes and avoid sad feelings which can prolong the grieving process. If the grief remains unresolved, you can also experience depression and other health problems. If you feel like crying, cry. Take time out in solitude, if you need to be alone sometimes, but do not make it habitual.

Let the feelings come naturally. You should not get embarrassed or judgmental in expressing them. Refrain from using destructive methods like alcohol consumption and drugs to restrict your emotions. False suppression of emotions can be damaging. Additionally, do not allow emotions to control you for the bad. Do not let others control your emotions.

2. Give dimension to your feelings

One of the most effective tools to combat overwhelming emotions is to give them a dimension. You can start keeping a journal or a scrapbook. You may also want to write a letter to the person (you have lost) expressing all you wanted to. Create an image gallery endorsing all the sweet memories. Relish and relive the memories by browsing through the gallery when you feel like.

Get involved in a cause or association which was important to the person. This will keep you engaged and divert your attention to do better jobs. Do something creative and constructive instead of indulging in grief and pain. Keeping a diary of your feelings and memories can be relaxing. If you do not want to write, you can draw images or have other visual reminders.

3. Get support and care from others

Get support and care

An important factor in the healing process is finding support around you. By sharing the loss, your grief appears less burdening. Do not confine in solitude. Find a worthy associate (relative, friend, etc.) with whom you can share your emotions. Even though you have spent all your life being strong and self-sufficient, take help and advice from others who have the experience of life. Whether it is the funeral ritual or the post death house re orientation, ask people to help you in whatever way seems feasible. On many occasions, the religious traditions bring solace and peace for you.

Your mind and body are connected. Emotional upset can be taxing on your body too. Get enough sleep to counter stress and fatigue. Refrain from punishing yourself by starving. Eat healthy food and exercise. Sometimes, you may feel out of mind and commit mistakes. Forgive yourself and do not expect too much in this disturbed state of affairs. Even though the first shock seem to go away, continue being liberal to yourself as recovery is a time taking process. 

4. Shift priorities in life

Although the loss may seem impossible to compensate, try finding happiness and content in the versatility of life. When your mind is focused on some other facet, you experience less of pain and grief. Join a support group (may be an NGO) and contribute for its betterment. You can find practical advice and encouragement in such a group of diverse people.

Maintain the normal lifestyle to have security and attachment with others around you. Avoid making major lifestyle changes like change of place or job. If you wish to do so, make the process gradual to reduce its impact on your mind. Since you have suffered a huge loss, you will need time to adjust to that change in your life first. 

5. Obtain professional help

Obtain professional help

Even though you have been attempting hard to resist grieving, you may find it uncontrollable. Symptoms like inability to perform the day to day activities, feeling of blame for you, finding reliance difficult, etc. can indicate concern. Free helplines are there all throughout the world. Professional help can assist in controlling grief from emerging as life threatening health problems (sometimes, suicide). Sometimes, grief does not emerge on the surface making it hard to treat. Look out for the obstacles which include marital or family discord, low confidence, worry about money, refraining to accept the loss and ongoing grief over past bereavement.

Final Words

Always keep in mind that loss of confidence is just a passing phase in your life. Everyone goes through these ups and downs in life. Just remain positive and believe in yourself and things will surely work out for you.

Dr Prem Jagyasi

Dr Prem is an award winning strategic leader, renowned author, publisher and highly acclaimed global speaker. Aside from publishing a bevy of life improvement guides, Dr Prem runs a network of 50 niche websites that attracts millions of readers across the globe. Thus far, Dr Prem has traveled to more than 40 countries, addressed numerous international conferences and offered his expert training and consultancy services to more than 150 international organizations. He also owns and leads a web services and technology business, supervised and managed by his eminent team. Dr Prem further takes great delight in travel photography.

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