The INTJ (Introversion, intuition, thinking, judgment) personality trait can be found in about 4% of the population, constituting an exceptional personality type. Their typical characteristics can keep them out of the league, and difficult to be handled by the usual people. Find below some tips which can be helpful when dealing with an INTJ.
Follow the appropriate art of conversing
Conversing with an INTJ can be troubling if you follow your own instinct, as this may not be acceptable to your listener (if at all he/she is listening). Being liberal with words can seem unacceptable to such people and there is no patience for repetition. An INTJ may plunge out of the conversation if you repeat something, which is like covering old ground. Make your dialogue content-free and straight-forward.
Impose a question only when you want an honest answer. There is hardly any room for emotions and sugarcoating. Be prepared to receive a blunt reply, even sarcasm. Do not tell white lies or tailor-made responses. If you are wrong, accept it and compromise. An INTJ usually reveals respect for a fundamental truth, regardless of whether it is right or not. You can be a reasonable person by admitting your mistake, instead of appearing questionable for whatever you say.
Exclude bewilderment and confusion
INTJs are admirers of practical solutions. Their actions are guided considerably by their open-mindedness and special character. When dealing with such people, bewilderment can be integral and misinterpreting their actions can cause harm (even though emotionally).
Annoying such persons can be reversed, cascading extremely witty (but mysterious) insults for the annoyer. It is better to leave them alone and avoid pushing too far. An INTJ may not talk much. This can possibly be because gossips are usually not the subject matter for such a person, and discussing relationships can be further repelling. Quantum physics, psychology, etc. (deep, but non-touchy topics) can be more relevant and interesting content for discussion. When finding it difficult to convey something, try using the electronic mail instead of talking. Even if they apparently may be listening, they are mentally transiting to another world.
There can be instances when you encounter incomprehensive responses to the otherwise simple situations. Consider these an essential component when dealing an INTJ to avoid things going overhead. Any unfeasible idea can be rejected without second opinion. Ignoring an idea can seem insulting to you, but the reason behind non-acceptance can be its impracticality (to the INTJ). Just because you want your viewpoint to be respected, you cannot forcibly get it implemented. You need to earn respect from an INTJ using your actions and words.
Be prepared to back up your arguments
In the first instance, avoid arguing at all. You probably would succumb to the tearing of the idea (or subject of discussion). An INTJ can use even those points to support the argument which he/she himself does not agree to. Howsoever confident you are, you will possibly be outwitted.
Prepare to support and back up your arguments before expressing your opinion. There is a great possibility that your opinion will end logically lopsided. Update yourself with facts and sound reasoning before jumping to a debate.
An INTJ can correct you often for being grammatically incorrect. He/she is very particular about the grammar skills and may not accept contextually ambiguous use of pronouns or incorrect words.
Do not feel hurt emotionally
Not belonging to the uncommon bracket of INTJs, you may feel emotionally upset or offensive more than often. Understand that an INTJ can be insensitive to even his/her own feelings. It would be too demanding to expect such a person to respond to your feelings. But fortunately, such a person does not attempt to pretend. Your opinion about an INTJ is not a matter of concern for the person. He/she is already aware of the idea that you think him/her to be egotistical and melancholic.
Surprisingly, an INTJ may express emotion out of the league (which you may consider insane). There can be sudden laughter (for no apparent reason or joke). Something in his/her mind probably cracked a joke!
Do not take offense for personal remarks. If an INTJ tries to take over the world, maybe it is meant for good. Allow him/her to be how he/she wants to.
Watch out for the pet peeves
What seems acceptable and absolutely normal to you can be annoying for an INTJ. It is helpful if you can keep the pet peeves at bay as much as possible. This will facilitate better interaction between you and the person, creating lesser discomfort and trouble for both of you.
Surprises are an aversion for such people; and gifts can highlight the need to reciprocate, which is burdening. Attacks on intelligence and proficiency are not liked, and manipulation can bring hatred. Solitude is a very crucial component to such people and any intrusion to the quality time can be intolerable. People who waste time are unwelcome. Persistently late people are also not liked by INTJs. Close minded, arrogant people or those who talk persistently have no place in an INTJâs life. Glitziness is also disliked.
