Every relationship in our lifeâ romantic, family, friendships and professional can be destroyed by misunderstanding and conflicts. However, these conflicts can be resolved easily if you can keep your ego aside and accept that even you can be wrong. Here are some tips which can help you deal with the problems in your relationship.
See the issue from other person’s perspective
Seeing the problem from the other personâs perspective is especially important if you are having a difficult issue with your partner. We are not saying that you have to agree with their viewpoint, rather we just want you look at the problem from a different perspective. You have to be open to the fact that the other person may have a point or there may be something that you donât know. Because of this empathy, you get an opportunity to understand why they have their particular mindset. Once you have understood the reason behind their peculiar behavior, then you may even wish to moderate your stance which is certainly the most effective step towards resolving a conflict. Conflicts are much more likely to occur if we look at things from our perspective only. For instance, parents dealing with teenagers should consider the perspective that their children may have at that point in life; then only they can bridge the communication gap between them and their kids.
Insecurity and inner poise
Your relationship will become more difficult if you are full of insecurities. The problem is that you can become judgmental about others if you are insecure about yourself. Although you may not be aware of this, it does happen every time you feel insecure about your relationship. Good relationships will be natural if you are at peace with yourself and you wonât feel like arguing and fighting anymore. It is human nature to blame others for bad relationships, however, the fact is that in most of the cases relationships go bad because of this blame game. So, if you really care about your relationship, then you need to work on yourself instead of blaming others. Once the person realizes that you are really working hard to make your relationship work, then they will also give their best. The bottom line is that you will be able to handle conflicts and misunderstandings in a better way once you have developed inner peace and poise.
Raise the problematic issues
Although bringing up old scores mostly opens the gate for new conflicts, sometime it becomes important to make other persons aware of the problems they are creating. If you believe that their actions are certainly not helping the cause of improving the relationship, then it becomes necessary to make them aware of their behavior. However, this needs to be done in a non-confrontational way, otherwise, you may inadvertently hurt their feelings. Although it doesnât sound like a good idea, as no one likes it when they are accused for something, here the situation is completely different in the sense that often people are not aware that they are creating any sort of problem for you. They may actually appreciate being made aware of the problem. But before you discuss any of your problems, keep in mind that it will be much easier for them to change if you encourage them to do so.
Tolerance
When we are in a relationship, we often start expecting from the other person to behave in a certain way; this is where conflicts occur. And whenever the other person fails to live up to our expectations, we get upset, thus creating a rift in the relationship. If you really want your relationship to work, then you have to be tolerant of their limitations and mistakes. Although you are an important part of their life, the bottom line is that it is their life and you have to respect their decisions. You should retain your concern for them, but a relationship works only when each person enjoys a certain degree of freedom. Not only should you give them the freedom of making their own choice, but you must also learn to respect the relationship even if you donât agree with them.
Dealing with anger
You need to understand the fact that responding to situations by getting angry is not going to help you out; in fact, it will only exacerbate the problem. Almost everyone struggles in dealing with the feeling of condemnation and aggression which anger embodies within itself. Other than this, it also encourages the other person to respond in a similar way which makes the situation worse. The best way to deal with anger is to avoid talking and arguing at that particular time. Before confronting the other person, you should always calm your anger first. Similarly, you should respond in a controlled way even if the other person approaches you with anger; obviously, silence is better than getting mad at anyone.
