Everyone dislikes selfish people. Selfish guys never look at their own mistakes instead they always point out others’ mistakes. The humorous fact is that such people advice others to change instead of bringing change among themselves. Here are few simple techniques to deal with a selfish person.
Know the reason
Nobody is born selfish. Situations and circumstances force a person to be selfish. If you find selfishness in your close friends or family members then you should try to understand their attitude. In order to understand their selfish character, you must first know the reasons for his/her selfishness. You can easily find them, if you just observe their actions and behaviors from a distance. Hate, depression, over confidence, jealousy, moodiness and wickedness etc. are some of the common reasons for being selfish. If you couldn’t analyze the selfish people by yourselves, don’t hesitate to seek help from your unselfish friends or a medical practitioner. Only when you learn the reasons for a person’s selfishness, you could take sufficient steps to help them; however, don’t try to change them for the reason that you don’t like their selfishness. If you do so, you are being selfish as well.
Avoid arguements
Never make the silly mistake of arguing with selfish people. Arguments itself might become the reason for their selfishness. Moreover, selfish people have more negativity in them. Literally, selfish guys don’t possess the courage to agree others or their points. When you make arguments with them, obviously, you will ruin your entire day. Even if your point is right, just agree that the selfish person is correct in his point and end the conversation. Your discussion will not be fruitful with such persons. Neither you can cope up with their words, nor they can agree with your points. There is no benefit for either of the speakers without having mutual understanding. Know your limits and don’t overact with selfish people. Most importantly, don’t make yourself selfish by trying to change the selfish persons.
Never speak about one’s selfishness
Speaking about one’s selfishness to himself/herself will annoy him/her. That’s why you should never mention their selfishness during direct conversations. Being negative, the selfish people would never agree their filthy character in front of others. However, you can let them know their selfishness through other jovial methods like using sarcasm, cracking jokes, telling stories about some other selfish person, etc. When they realize their selfishness they will change, without anybody’s advice or help. That’s the real success of coping up with selfish people. Being selfish is not a big mistake; but resisting to change one’s attitude even after knowing one’s selfish character is quite bad.
Think positively
Every human being have both positive and negative qualities. When a person diverts more attention on his/her negative qualities, he/she loses the beautiful part of life. When you think from a positive point of view, you can find good qualities in a selfish person as well. Leave the negative behavior of the selfish people and appreciate the positive qualities in them. By practice and experience, you will easily learn to deal with selfish persons over time. In fact, when you adapt yourselves with selfish persons, you will become more happier than those selfish guys. By nature, if the selfish person is present in the middle of an unselfish group of people, he/she will change his/her attitude according to the surrounding situations. If they get used to to such circumstances, selfish person might change their attitude without even realizing it.
Ignore
Ignoring the selfish person at critical situations is highly recommended. The most essential quality while dealing with selfish people is that you should not change your attitude due to their presence. If you could not resist yourselves from changing your attitude, ignore the situation and walk away immediately. Move your attention towards unselfish people and energize yourselves. You may face critical circumstances when one of your family members might have a selfish attitude. In such cases, you may not even be able to avoid them completely. However, ignore them temporarily just for that moment or for that particular day when they express their selfishness in a vague manner. Thus, with the knowledge of right techniques, you can easily deal with selfish people.
