Rejection in dating is an unpleasant feeling, but leaves behind clues to make the next relation work better. Rather than looking at it as a failure, you need to visualize it as a step towards finding the partner who would fill your life with warmth and affection than misery and self-pity.
Accept the refusal as a clear-cut incompatibility of personalities
Sometimes, we meet people with whom we feel we are establishing a good rapport when suddenly the affinity vanishes and quite unexpectedly we stand rejected. It definitely hurts, but then again, it is better to be practical and see the positive side of it. We have to accept this rejection as a natural outcome of asymmetrical desires and needs between the two people rather than feel flawed or not worthy. Also, we need to understand that the rejection at this point of time is by far better than at some later period when you are more emotionally involved and cause despair. We need to figure out that a relation is more of an emotional journey than just a physical attraction. It needs to be well fitted for both involved in it and needs to be fulfilling for one another. Incompatibility will not make it an easy journey to go through anyway.
Instead of brooding, explore better territories
While dating, you are mostly unacquainted of the circumstances of the other person. So it is unfair to make assumptions of his/her disinterest at that point. The refusal might be about being unaware than being indifferent towards you. He/she might not be yet ready for the relation or be caught in some other tricky situation where he/she is oblivious of you. In that case, it is better to stop brooding over the refusal and expand your vision and look elsewhere. You can always train your mind to think that he/she was not good enough to match up nonetheless. Also, do not allow this emotional setback to restrict your search for that special someone. Instead, be clearer about the type of personality to look for next time. An important outcome of the knockback should be to clear out the mindsâ confusions, perk up your social skills, and move forward.
Be positive. Do not indulge in âwhere did I go wrongâ
It is not practical to sit down and analyze the whole relationship to figure out the reasons for its failure. This will only wobble our confidence levels and fluster our social skills. Basically, if we look close into the relation, the fissures and differences was clearly there from the beginning. Furthermore, visualize the relation as a stepping-stone towards being a more sensitive person that you are and do not be afraid to acknowledge the experience from this trip. It will only help you to understand what you are actually looking for in your partner. We need to know that rejection is not about going wrong or being at fault, but rather an unsuited relation meeting its natural death. This positive perspective not only helps us brace the dating game energetically but also leads us to our soul mate.
