There is no written rule that you should like everyone you come across, but sometimes you have to deal with people you can’t stand. Here we have given some tips to help you in dealing with people you can’t stand.
No one is perfect. Remember that!
We can hardly find people who are impeccable. No body is perfect and every one have their own share of quirks and flaws. Of course this shouldn’t be a real reason to dislike someone.
Psychological studies say that if you dislike a person strongly, it might be due to the fact that you see a part of your behavior, you dislike in that person. It is a natural tendency that we prefer to stay in a company that satisfies our ego. We are merely attracted to people who share some common interests and snub those who replicate what we don`t like about ourselves. So we should always remember that if you don’t like a person, it is a part of your identity that makes you dislike him.
When you find the person trying to get into conversation with you, try to make it as small as possible. If he is asking you yes/no questions, do not bother your self by giving explanations. They are of no use to you and does not contribute to your mental peace.
At times humor can come to your rescue. If you are losing control, just crack a joke in your head and calm down, but at the same time, make sure you don’t laugh. That will only worsen the situation.
Acceptance
If you don’t like a person, it doesn’t mean that he is a bad person. Accept the fact that no one is perfect. Do not try to change a person just because you don’t like him. Just accept him for what he is and move on.
You may look bad if they get to know that you don’t like them. They might try to push the buttons that could provoke and piss you off. So stay calm and cool.
Interaction with that person helps you to cope with that person. Try to look for some common interests. I am sure you will find something or the other to carry forward a civilized conversation. You might like a particular NBA team or you might have been to the same summer camp in your teenage. Search for something and if it doesn’t work pretend to empathize. Create a scenario where in you can easily deal with her. It doesn’t matter if you have to fake it. Just do it. That is the way to get on in a more friendly manner with people you can`t stand.
Skip the blame game. It will not help you in any situation. If you want to confront him/her, just make sure you are approaching the situation firmly but not authoritatively.
Look at the positive side
Good and bad are like two side of a coin, if you are honest, you can notice the positive aspects of the person you despise. No body is entirely bad. Bear that in mind.
To some extent it is true that people prefer not to look beyond their judgments. In fact, in some cases it will take all the strength you have to do so.
Demonstrate maturity in your relationships. You can achieve this by looking at the positives in that person.
Your bondage with your negative feelings is a hindrance to your social relationship. There is a possibility that you may like the person if you have a broad outlook.
Be nice to the person you can`t stand
Everyday is not a Sunday – You never know what happens tomorrow. You might even need the help of the person you dislike. Avoid being harsh and rude to someone you don`t like. There is every chance that the person might remember that when you were desperately in need of his help.
There might be a chance that there are people who don’t like you. You don’t expect them to be disrespectful to you. So why not cope with the person you hate with the same attitude.
Discover their story
Behind every person, there is a story explaining their natural disposition.Try discovering that story in a person you don`t like which can help you to initiate a better understanding of them as a human being.
This amazing world has different people so try to like the person you hate. There is a chance that you might end up having a very good lesson of rectifying the negative side of your personality.
