Why excess of everything is not always the key to ultimate happiness

Butterfly Sitting on the hand of a young woman in the forest

Generally, human mind wanders around one third of the day. It wanders while a person is reading, talking to someone or even taking care of his/her child. In fact, on an average, 10 percent of the human minds wander, when they are involved in calculations. This wandering, as the psychologists say, is not at all beneficial.

A wandering mind is a sign of unhappiness. But then what is happiness? Happiness is the overall outcome of experiences which a person gains in his daily life. Numerous psychological researches conducted during the last decade have demonstrated that the experiences which a person gains makes him much more happy than any of his other possessions. The life time experiences which he gathers during a tour or attending a concert cater far more happiness rather than any other material possessions.

What is the psychology behind it?

worries in our life

Buying things or moving aimlessly does not make a man happy. Remember, the acquisition of physical assets can never make one totally delighted. It might create a moment of joy but that’s temporary. There are lots of reasons behind this; one of which could be the fact that the memory of buying an asset fades away with the due course of time.

In the store each and every item looks shiny and new; but straight away, when the package is opened, such items starts fading. Always remember, each and every item that we purchase brings up worries in our life. Every physical item that we buy represents one more thing which could be broken, scratched or stolen. Moreover, each and every possession requires maintenance.

Most research results say that there is far more efficient way to get happiness – enjoying life-changing experiences, is one good example. There are some priceless belongings available to us, wherein love, righteousness, devotion, compassion, and emancipation are just to name a few.

Why having new experiences makes you happy?

unlimited money

Researchers say that when we do not have unlimited money, we should spend it on those items which could make us happy. Some people logically think that they cannot get happiness for a longer period of time, after purchasing any physical object; rather, they feel more excited after attending a performance or after enjoying a vacation.

We buy things to make us happy, and we succeed, but that’s only for a limited span of time. New things are exciting to us at the first instance only, but once we get habituated to those items, the charm starts fading. So instead of purchasing the latest Smartphone or a new car, you can always spend money on experiences like visiting an art exhibition, performing outdoor activities, gaining an innovative skill or even travelling.

You can really love material stuff, you can even think those items as a part of your identity; nevertheless all those belongings are specific items which have their own distinctive identities. On the contrary, your experiences are completely yours. So, always keep in mind that our existence is the aggregate of all our experiences.

What else contributes to true happiness?

capability to smile

Always remember that experiential purchases, such as a dining out in a restaurant or watching a movie in the theatre, can bring more happiness rather than other material belongings. People who are positive in nature always have the capability to smile and improve their mood by themselves. Generally, when you are surrounded by happy people you are supposed to become happy. And when you are kind to others, you are welcomed by everyone.  All these qualities contribute to your personal popularity.

Hence, you should always prefer a simple living rather than buying unnecessary stuff and storing them in your house. You might think that those items can get you happiness, but in reality, the situation is different.  In fact, living a simple life full of experiences can always release your day to day stress and thus, you can live a healthy life.

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