You must have heard about the unconditional love. However, do you really have faith in it? Well like many others, you also must be having a firm belief in unconditional love. However, many a psychologists say that there is nothing like unconditional love. No matter how deep someone is in love with their loved ones but their love can never be free from conditions. It is just that people in love do not realize the extent of conditions that they put on their loved ones, and on the other side, they claim that their love is unconditional. We human beings love our beloved, children, parents, friends, animals, and what not. The intensity of love differs on individual basis and so does the extent of conditions on which the love is based.
The term unconditional love just does not exist and it is all but a myth. For an unconditional love to exist in reality, it has to be free from all kinds of conditions and expectations. This goes for love between a parent and child, friends, family, lovers, and with animals. Almost everybody mentioned above claims that their love is unconditional.
Especially the parents, since childhood we are told that parent’s love for their children is unconditional. They continue loving their children with same intensity even after the blunders their children do. However, psychologists do not believe this, and they say that none of the parent can love their children unconditionally.
The explanation that some psychologists give in order to support their belief regarding the unconditional love of parents for their children are that the first condition behind a parent’s love for their children is that they are their children. Had not they been their children, they would have never loved them in the same way as they do to their own kids. This is because you get motivated to love, care, and to offer the best of amenities to your own child and not for others. So, your relation, the connection is the first condition of your love towards your children.
Coming to the love of lovers, again there are explanations those prove the claims of unconditional love wrong. People say, love is blind and one cannot help falling in love. Though this saying holds true in some rarest of cases and majority of the love affairs are based on well-calculated and analyzed decisions.
Had this not been a fact, then why do people look for glamorous, hot and happening partners? Why do girls have certain criteria for the man of their dreams and boys have particular requirements related to the girl of their dreams? Had their love been unconditional, they would fall in love with any random guy or a girl. So, in this case also all the claims of unconditional love fall flat.
Our love for our friends is also conditional. We love them and they love us till the moment we behave to please them. The moment we stop caring for our friend’s expectations, differences start appearing in the relation. The same goes for our love for our pets. People claim they are madly in love with their pet but they do not love their behavior. With this condition, your love for your pet can never be unconditional. This just means that you love your pet only when he behaves according to your will.
With all these explanations, it can be concluded that unconditional love just does not exist. It is an absolute myth. We human beings love others because they in some way or the other fulfill our needs and score well on the scale of our expectations. Similarly, other people love us because we fulfill their desires. So next time before you plan to claim your love to be of unconditional type, think twice.