Dealing with girls is a tough task. If you wish to strike a conversation and be friends with a shy girl, your challenge gets even bigger. You need to exhibit your suave charm without appearing too sugar-coated. Check out these tips to help yourself.
Start it well
If you wish to start conversation with a shy girl you need to have patience. Shy girls don’t let down their guards easily. If you are waiting for the girl to start a conversation with you, you would be disappointed. Don’t hesitate in starting a conversation. Start off well. Be confident when you approach her and make sure that you don’t appear too apprehensive. Keep yourself mentally prepared in case the girl doesn’t respond well at first. Such girls usually don’t trust strangers easily. So appear as genuine as possible and don’t show yourself over interested. This might actually ruin your chances.
Know what not to talk about
Girls are a little too selective about what to reveal about themselves and what not. If you approach a girl with loads of smile and a warm hand shake, she may respond but don’t consider this response to pave way for your further interactions. For that, you would have to take charge. When you start a conversation, it is important to know what not to ask to her in the first meeting. Make it a thumb rule, do not try to know personal details like address, contact information, family details, dress preferences etc. in the first meeting. It may actually put her off. Stay formal, genuine and give her warm smiles so that she comes to know that you have noticed her.
Pay attention to your body language
Your body language speaks a lot about you. You do need to control it whether you are meeting her for the first time or after series of meetings. A girl may be shy but she may not necessarily be meek. So make sure that you don’t try to dominate her in the smallest of things like choosing something from the menu or telling her who not to talk to. Such girls often judge people on the basis of their behavior towards others as they do not prefer to hang out with strangers. So you have to be aware of how your body language is portraying you. Take care of basic etiquette like not staring at her, not looking at her clothes etc. You may think that she isn’t realizing it, the fact is, such things don’t go unnoticed.
Help them to open up
There is a possibility that your girl wants to talk and chat but is finding it difficult. This happens when the interaction is in the initial phase and the girl thinks a lot before speaking to the guy. Help her to open up. After a series of meetings you can tell her about your family, your common interests etc. This would give her some topics to talk to you about. Refrain from indulging into office gossips with her.
Don’t judge them
Hesitant people often run away from situations where they are judged. They often speak less where there is a chance of any unwanted comment being passed on them. You have to be very conscious about how you make her feel. Do not pass any personal remark and don’t make her realize that you are judging her by any angle, whether it is her dressing sense, looks, professional achievements or whatever.
