We find rude people all around us whether it is in work situations or in relationships. They can be very insensitive and can cause great trauma to you if you are dealing with them consistently. Here are some great ways to deal with rudeness and help keep your calm while you drive the message into their brains.
Ignore the rudeness
Though it is easy to say, ignoring rude remarks and action do not come easy for most of us. The rude gesture or remark will create a deep scar in our minds, however much we try to ignore it. However, this is the best way to make the rude person feel hurt and angry as the fact that you are not affected will make them feel that they have not hit the right nerve. Most rude people would want to see the victim getting affected by their actions and when this is denied, they get angry and frustrated. Constant ignoring will piss them off and soon they will shun you and look for a new prey to pounce upon.
Remain calm and relaxed
If you cannot ignore the rudeness, at least practice your mind in such a way that you do not react to the rudeness immediately, even if you are seething inside. Relax and prevent yourself from an outburst by doing deep breathing, so that you will remain calm and composed during this time. Remaining calm and composed while the rude person hits at you, is the worst kind of insult you can give him/her. He/she will feel let down by his/her ability to disturb you and will soon start doubting his/her abilities as well.
Speak to the rude person
Speaking to the rude person may help in some cases. If a person has been rude to you several times and you do not see him/her changing anywhere in the near future, it is right to speak to the person and let him/her know that he/she has been rude to you and you do expect a better treatment from him/her next time. It could be possible that he/she is rude to everyone and no one has ever told so. Your confrontation could give the person a serious jolt and could change the person forever. Remember not to be rude yourself when you confront the rude person. Smile and be very polite when you let him/her know how you feel about his/her rude behavior. Your good behavior will be a great inspiration for the rude person to change his/her behavior towards you.
React immediately
Rudeness can go from bad to worse if you do not do anything about it. It is best to react in the first or second instance itself to put an end to the rudeness then and there. Many people are not willing to do this which is why the person mostly continues with his/her rudeness and things go out of control. React immediately if the person has been unpardonably rude and in such cases you do not even have to remain polite and smiling as well. Give a piece of your mind too, when talking to the rude person and make sure that you let him/her know how bad their behavior is and how it is not acceptable to anyone.
React openly in a controlled manner
When you react to a rude person, you must make sure that you are not as rude as him/her and have some control on your outburst so as not to make matters worse. Just react as much and as little as needed and then ignore the person for the rest of the day until he/she wants to apologize to you. It is a good idea to react in front of others as this will make the rude person understand the full implication of what he/she has done. Reacting openly will prevent the person from being rude to you openly the next time.
Inform the concerned authorities
If it is a work atmosphere, you can take the matter to the human resources department or the top management if the rudeness has gone beyond control. However, make sure that this is a valid case when you approach higher authorities. Do not use such situations for washing dirty linen in public as some people are rude to each other due to personal antagonisms and such instances should not be taken to the top management for finding solutions. Settle it amicably between yourself when this is the case. In a relationship, you can think of letting the rude personâs relatives or friends know if you are finding it difficult to adjust.
Walk away
If the person is becoming very difficult to tolerate, you can think of walking away from him as soon as he/she starts targeting you. This can be effective in work situations if you want to avoid conflicts. In relationships, you might want to talk to the person about his way before you decide to walk out of the relationship. Being rude to your partner cannot be tolerated for a long time and if the person is not willing to change, you must surely assess whether there is a future in your relationship.
