Parents are the ones who have brought you in this world. They are the first ones whom you start loving. However times change and so does your way of living and thinking. There are clashes of views which leads to complications in relationships with parents. Let us see how should you deal with your parents and minimize the complications.
Dealing with parents shouting at you
The first thing you should know while dealing with this kind of problem is to know what are they trying to tell you and why are they yelling at you. Think it from their point of view and you will get a clear idea what are they trying to tell you. Most of the time they get stubborn to infuse a thing in you which is beneficial to you. Listen to them and respect their words. You initiate the act of listening and the next time you will definitely see them listening to you. They will also start respecting you and your words and your words will be considered important in family discussion.
Dealing with workaholic parents
Workaholic means those people who are very ambitious of achieving the desirable career goals. If you have workaholic parents you will see them working most of the time and not giving you the desired time. Hence it becomes very difficult for you to turn to them for advice or for support as they hardly have any knowledge of what’s going on in your life. If they do not have time for you, make it a point to meet them on weekends and keep yourself free for them. Dinner time is a family time is so very rightly said. Hence never miss it. Tell them about your day and ask them too. Also plan picnics and outings when an opportunity comes.
Dealing with strict and over-protective parents
If you are a teenager then dealing with over-protective and strict parents is really a task. You will want to go out and hang out with your friends and enjoy all the pleasures of your college. But your over-protective parents have already set deadlines for you, in which it will seem impossible for you to enjoy. Your parents will be waiting for you to appear before them right after college. Not only that your mobile will be checked and conversation with your friends will be overheard. You have to keep and give a record of all things you do in college and a whole resume of your friends.
Before you misunderstand them completely, make one thing very clear that they are doing all this just for you. They remain strict and over-protective because they are worried about you. They want to keep you safe because they have experienced the real world.
The best way to deal with them is not to get angry at them but answer all their questions calmly. Tell them about your friends, the things you do in college, the festivals you have participated in, why you would have to stay in college for longer hours. You can also take a step ahead and call your friends at home or invite them to see you performance in college. They will surely appreciate you and encourage you more to do the things which you enjoy doing.
Dealing with parents divorce
Dealing with parents divorce can be nightmare to children as they may be petrified with the amount of quarrels that go in the house. It may also be a possibility that the anger of their partner may change its directions and flows to you. You may become the prey of their anger towards their partner or have to face their anger. Or they may look up to you for support and this is the time when you really have to be with your parents. Talk to them and get to the root of the problem and if possible save your parents from divorce. Clear the air between them if you find out if the cause is nothing but a misunderstanding. Tell them that you love both of them and cannot afford to lose them at all.
Dealing with ambitious parents
Parents have a possibility of looking upon their children for completion of dreams they once did dream. Hence they may coax you up to participate or take up courses in which you are not interested at all. They may shower you with all aspirations and hence over burden you, which you may not be able to handle at all. You may not be allowed to follow your passion and dreams.
In such cases, you need to talk to your parents and let them know that you too have dreams of your own and that you may want to pursue it. If they are not listening to you now, have patience. They will definitely listen to you later seeing your dedication and passion towards your goal. Talk to them about what methods you are using to achieve your goals, they will definitely be impressed by your plans.
