Love doesn’t require anything at all. Love in itself is enough. However, many a time, we fail to recognise love. Sometimes, it is written all over us and yet, we don’t know it. It can happen to anyone. It will dawn upon you at the right time. Any and every individual can go through such feelings. However, more important than recognising love is the fact that one needs to recognise when it isn’t love. Love, that you can call your own is the best feeling in the world and nothing can match that feeling. However, make sure that you aren’t an in an illusion. You might not really be in love; you might just like that person a lot and hence, maybe attached to him or her.
This happens quite often and one ought to be wary of it. It isn’t a good idea to confess your love on the basis of an illusion. Yes, the definition of love differs from person to person but if you will tag the feeling of attachment as love, it will not work out for you. In fact, it cannot be truly called love. It is just attachment towards a person. Attachment and love are 2 different feelings and one shouldn’t confuse the 2 with each other. Everyone has their own idea of love through different things such as movies, novels, television, family background, friends etc. None the less, it should actually be love irrespective of the idea. Love and just love and nothing else!
True Love is Unattached
If you try to impersonate someone else’s idea of love into your life, it will not work out for you. You need to figure out your own differences between love and attachment before you decide that you have actually and truly fallen in love. Also, if you think it is love and not attachment, don’t hold yourself back. Give with open arms. For, true love isn’t experienced by many. It is going to be the best time of your life when you are truly in love and whether it lasts or not, you are going to cherish this time. Not only you, but also people around you are going to notice that you are truly in love.
In fact, true love is free of any attachments. Hence, if you feel like you love that person and are going to love them under all circumstances, you will not feel attached but a feeling of love will run down your spine, every time you think of him or her. This is the best feeling that one can go through. Yes, your very own love, the one that you have waited for so long. What’s more, it is going to be yours under all circumstances. You are going to make the most pleasant sight with love that is free of any attachments. It is going to be by far the best thing that has ever happened to you.
Your Idea of Love
If you are really, truly and actually in love, you will never want to let it go. No matter what you do, it will never go. Even if you and your love decide on ending things, it will never mean that the feeling of love has faded away. This is because love doesn’t require anything more than love. If you love, you love. There is nothing beyond that in any relationship that involves love. Yes, love comes with many perversions and attachment is one of them. It is necessary that one be wary of the perversions of love. True and pure love will belong to you over the entire world and the vice versa will start to wear away in no time.
Sometimes, it takes years to recognise love and sometimes, it is love at first sight. How long it takes doesn’t matter if it is love actually and not just a perversion. Mostly, dating for a while before falling in love, leads to the confusion between attachment and love. Sometimes, everyone will tell you that you are in love and still you will not believe it. These things are pretty confusing and it is necessary to differentiate between very closely related feelings such as love and attachment. It might be possible that your very idea of love is based on the perversion of attachment. Hence, be careful about things like this.
Just because you told someone that you don’t love them, doesn’t mean that you aren’t a good person. It is better to let that person know than to cheat that person. Also, if the other person is attached to you apart from the fact that they are in love with you, they might hurt. However, if you were under the perversion of attachment and have realised it, it is always good to let the other person know than to keep them under the illusion that you are in love with them. However, the best thing to do would be to recognise the difference between love and attachment well in time.